Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Ok....I will try to make this short, I need some advice. I have been dating this guy for a few months and one of my best girlfriends asked me to go on a camping trip a couple months back, shes planning a party for her boyfriend. I mentioned it to the guy Im dating and he seemed not interested at ALL saying he wouldnt like something like that. So, I didn't ask him because I really thought he would say no & I was fine going by myself. So...last night I told my BF that my mom was asking if hes going on this trip with me and I told her no. And he said to me, well, you never asked me to go. So I said o, well u said you weren't interested so I was fine going by myself. He then went on to say AGAIN you still never asked. So I called my girlfriend asking if there was room for him and she said yes. So, I asked him to go and he said no thanx, go have fun with your friend. SO of course I went on to say I knew u were going to say no thats why I didnt ask in the first place. He said it's "after the fact" and he's not interested in going, getting really upset with me. I didnt even care if he went in the first place, its just the point of him to make a comment to me saying I never asked him making me feel guilty about it. Then rewind to about a month back he asked me to go away with him for the weekend, over a text. Well, I said yeah I wanted to go and asked him what we would do over the weekend, etc...normal questions anyone would ask, right?? He got the total wrong impression and ended up saying if Im not interested, it's no big deal. But I am interested in going, I never said I wasn't! We dont get to spend a whole lot of time together and a weekend away would be great. And last night he brought it up, saying asking him to go with me to this weekend with my friend gives him no motivation bring I had no interest in going when he asked me to go. I just dont get it!!! Never did I once not seem interestd in going with him. I then got upset and he refused to talk about it anymore. He said he's done talking about it and he doesnt want me to bring it up anymore or fight about it. So, now Im soo confused and Im not allowed to mention it to him or he's going to get pissed at me, and things between us have been a little rocky and I dont wanna push it anymore. Im really hurt, I was excited when he asked me to go away with him, I think it would be great. Why does he think I dont want to go? I have 2 young kids, I was even going to arrange for someone to watch them so me and him can be together.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Any input?? Or honest opinions?
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 He sounds like a spoiled drama queen. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't put up with that; I'd tell him to grow up or get out. You've already got two young kids in your life - I'm sure you don't need any more drama than they provide on a daily basis. You have to ask yourself two questions: Do I see a real possibility of this behaviour improving in the near future?If not, am I willing to put up with this type of behaviour indefinitely? If you can't answer yes to either of those, send him on his way.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 He sounds like a spoiled drama queen. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't put up with that; I'd tell him to grow up or get out. You've already got two young kids in your life - I'm sure you don't need any more drama than they provide on a daily basis. You have to ask yourself two questions: Do I see a real possibility of this behaviour improving in the near future?If not, am I willing to put up with this type of behaviour indefinitely?If you can't answer yes to either of those, send him on his way. Well....actually he has been REALLY understanding, but a couple things like this have happened in our relationship and its making me question things. When I told him how upset I was about this and I asked if he wanted to continue talking he laughed and said he would forget about this by tomorrow, and he would tease me about it, its not big deal... I mean hes understanding about my kids and I have some issues he is absolutely fine with. He has gone really out of his way to see me, etc...No, I do NOT need any more drama, but I have given him drama, also and he has dealt with me...so, I can take a little bit. Thanx 4 the advice, Im new around here, but think this messageboard is kool.
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