emilydiane Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I've been with the same guy for about three years now, and for the past few months we've been engaged. A few days ago i went through his email and found emails to his ex girlfriend from about a year or two ago saying stuff like "oh i love you, you're the greatest." and stuff like his relationship with me consists of him just telling me he loves me but it seems like all bull. There was only about five or six emails, and one ended the "relationship." But he told her that he didn't want it to end. Naturally, i was very upset. I know that it was wrong to snoop through his emails. It's not necessarily cheating because at the time he was deployed in Korea, and he had no physical contact with her, but to me it is mental and emotional cheating. I confronted him about it and he said that at the time he was a jerk, and he was very stupid, and soon after he realized that i was the one he wanted to be with forever. I can't seem to let it go and when i think about it and his ex girlfriend i feel like i want to throw up. I told him that it would take me a long time to get over, but i can't seem to keep thinking that if he kept that from me for so long, what if he is keeping something else? But on the other hand, he gave me his password, so why would he do that if he had something to hide? I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about this, and i know that although i'll get over it it will still remain in the back of my mind. I just don't know what to do.
nowhereman82 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I know it feels horrible....but take a look from his side. Then take a look at how you might feel about him if he was to break up with you a year ago. Would you might have a place in your heart for him even after he left you? Would you contact him even if he was with someone and reminisce? Or try to get some personal closure? Ex's still hold a part in people's hearts, sometimes for life. You can treat this as his closure with her, as they haven't spoken in a year. And now he can pay more attention to you. Not excusing his actions, but this may of been good for both of you since he got his closure it seems.
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