yosniel8 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 all right ladies, need some advice on this one, i've known this girl for over a year, when we met we hated each other, fighting and arguing like little kids (we're in the early 20s), then we became friends although we still went at it a couple of times, now for the past two months or so, things have taken a complete turn, we're always flirting, talk every single day until late a tnight, and when we've gone out (always with friends) i get a lot of attention from her. now this past weekend, things got serious and all of our friends are expecting us to start going out, one of our mutual friends talked to her and it was good news. now i have to man up and ask her ASAP because i know she's expecting it and i don't want to lose this girl. my idea was for tomorrow at work have a flower delivery for her, something very simple, one to 3 roses, with a small note, saying something like "have lunch with me today" and with one of our inside jokes so she knows it is me. when we're having lunch, i was planning on talking to her, now this is where i have some questions: 1) what do you ladies think of my idea 2) this is my dilemma, should i ask her to be my girlfriend or the usual boring would you go out with me (mind you, in a creative way) thanks for the help ladies, fellas, you can comment also if you have any advice
Author yosniel8 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 sorry, american culture, how is it over the top, i would think that agirl would love that
nopainnogain Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Get a nice candlelight dinner going on.kinda like the movie better off dead. Then put on some music ,take her hand and blah blah blah
Trimmer Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 better off dead - ha! I love it! I'm not sure I agree, but I still love it!
xpaperxcutx Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Have the lunch but ask her out later that same night so then you can ask her to be your girlfriend in a much more romantic setting. And I think roses are overrated. Why not sent her a teddy bear or a stuff animal that holds a card in its hand with the inside joke? I think that's much more memorable.
Author yosniel8 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 hmm......good thinking, i agree with the teddy bear idea
Prodigal Princess Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 This does all sound a bit too formal, something you might do in primary school, but at the same time you are young and it is cute. I think going out with someone should normally start more organically, however if you think she would appreciate you putting in effort like this, and she won't be put on the spot, go for it. Do not ask her "to be your girlfriend". This smacks of inexperience - again, something you might do in primary school. You should go out/date someone before they become your boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't jump the gun! You seem pretty pumped but I think it's important to remember to be cool about the whole thing. It sounds like part of the fun of your relationship with this girl has been your banter; don't fawn all over her now, she'll run a million miles. Good luck matey.
Prodigal Princess Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 hmm......good thinking, i agree with the teddy bear idea Yep, a teddy bear is much better than flowers. Goes with the cuteness of the whole situation!
Author yosniel8 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 can you explain the fawn all over her part please
Author yosniel8 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 yeah allright thanks for the advice, im definitely hindu or asian or whatever else you said
Green Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 First off why are you specificaly asking for advice from women to go about this? Would you ask a fish to teach you how to fish? Your not shopping for clothes here or trying to pick out furniture you need a mans point of view. Heres my advice and you can tell me if I'm wrong. You havn't kissed this girl have you. Well there you go, next time your flirting tell her you have a secret you want to tell her, then wisper something in her ear like "your trouble" and then you;ll already be close because of the whisper so it will be easy to just kiss her. After you pull back from the kiss you'll know, and she'll know if you guys have true chemestry. You don't even have to have a formal be my girlfriend talk untill after you guys have started getting romantic... in fact your out of your mind naive for trying your big dinner thing it actualy might freak her out stalkers do stuff like that, they act all in love with a girl theyve never really kissed or been romantic with... do you want to even risk seeming like a stalker who comes off as totaly in love with a girl who at this point still is a friend even if you have been flirting. Man up and kiss the girl, the rest will take care of itself from that point, and worry less about some formal dinner where you get to label eachother bf and gf
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