scottk51 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Not too long ago, about a month, me and my ex of a little over a year broke up. It didn't hurt me too bad because for about the last two months of the time we were together, we were constantly arguing and struggling with each other so the impact of the actual break up wasn't too bad... it hurt, but at the same time didn't. Friends helped me cope and get over stuff almost completely and i got used to the fact of being single. About a week ago i met this girl that caught me attention pretty quickly. I thought i felt the connection at first but after hanging out with her the last few days i started to get mixed feelings. She told me she liked me alot and was comfortable with everything and i on the other hand didn't feel too comfortable. I started to question if i actually liked her or not. When i first met my ex i kinda felt a connection almost instantly and i haven't felt the same way with this new girl yet. I'm starting to question if it's because i'm not completely over my ex because i was so use to being comfortable with one person for so long but also she was my first real relationship so I'm not even too experienced at all in dealing with these feelings. I'm also wondering if this is a common thing and that i'm just not chemically into this girl. If anyone can help me sort some of these feelings I'll really appreciate it. Thank you
LionLover Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Maybe your just not over your ex yet. Give it time.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 The breakup with your ex has hit you hard and you're not over her yet. The new girl serves as a rebound.
Author scottk51 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 the thing though is i dont really feel for my ex too much, i think that i'm just not used to being comfortable with anyone else. and my other question was, is this a normal feeling? like is it part of the dating game, getting to know someone and then realizing she's not perfect for you?
xpaperxcutx Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 the thing though is i dont really feel for my ex too much, i think that i'm just not used to being comfortable with anyone else. and my other question was, is this a normal feeling? like is it part of the dating game, getting to know someone and then realizing she's not perfect for you? Yes it's a normal feeling. You're just not ready to get back into dating just yet. And it's normal to feel that some is not perfect for you. Just hope you don't become too picky about it.
Author scottk51 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 should i give this girl more time though, we're not officially dating yet but we've mentioned it once or twice. she's a very sweet and attractive girl but for some reason i just haven't clicked with her in the way i clicked with my ex.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Ok...you have only known this girl for a week???? Well, with my experience I have dated guys where we clicked right away and there was a great connection. I also have dated guys that I didnt feel that right away, but turned out to be nice relationships. I wouldnt analyze it TOO much, just have fun and see what happens or if you're really not into hanging out then don't.
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