Author KaRo Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Art it wasn't in my OP, I replied the same thing to shygirl's post, which was right before yours. But that really doesn't matter. EDIT: Yes I see what you're saying, my OP wasn't clear and did make it seem like I was lumping the two together. Srry for the vagueness.
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Art it wasn't in my OP, I replied the same thing to shygirl's post, which was right before yours. But that really doesn't matter. All cool... Try and not get discouraged.. Online dating you have to get used to rejection... It is a numbers game.. the more contact you have with people online the more people will respond to your profile positively... Make sure you pick out something from their profile when you email them so they know you are not just cut and pasting a form letter email you send everyone.. Also try and let your humorous side come out.. women want to have fun.. they want to laugh and they want to make sure if they spend their time out with a guy that it is a good time..
Mako482 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 If you followed up their 'yes', with 'wanna meet for a shag then?' I just totally saw Austin Powers saying this when I read that.
flc Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I look at the picture and profile as your resume, this is what will drive either people to contact you or respond. So you want these to project your image and what you are looking for, don't lie about anything it will just make the situation worse later. Be specific, being general just results in a lot of work with little return. Keep the emails/chat/phone calls short and use them just as a means to determine if the person is someone you still feel interested in. If so meet as soon as possible, all of the rest is meaningless until you meet. The key thing to remember is that online is just another method of meeting people, have fun meeting new people even if it does not lead to anything romantic.
littlekitty Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I just totally saw Austin Powers saying this when I read that. Shagadelic!
lovestruck818 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I posted it on another site (where that is sort of judged). So it wasn't completely strange as that is to be expected there. I didn't ask them if I was good looking I just asked what they thought of that pic. And on that site others were judged harshly (as well as good), so I'd say it was objective. I was just wondering what reasons there would be to not responding to an email. Why do you even care anyway? Furthermore, looks do not make the man. Maybe the girls you are e-mailing are getting the impression you're only about looks moreso than anything else- you don't want to come off like that.
Author KaRo Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 As I said the site where I posted my pic was a diff one than the dating site. I apologize for the vagueness of my OP, it's caused some confusion.
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 As I said the site where I posted my pic was a diff one than the dating site. I apologize for the vagueness of my OP, it's caused some confusion. You can't catch a break. I have had my picture on Hot or Not before.. a couple of times actually.. I'm a solid 8.5 +-.. been up to 8.8 for a couple of months before I settled in.. I did realize though that gay guys also vote on hotornot.. So my ego was put quickly into check... Just saying...
Author KaRo Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Haha, so what happened to your score then. And who says they are gay, I wouldn't put jealousy past guys either (if they deliberately gave you a low rating).
grogster Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 You can't catch a break. I have had my picture on Hot or Not before.. a couple of times actually.. I'm a solid 8.5 +-.. been up to 8.8 for a couple of months before I settled in.. I did realize though that gay guys also vote on hotornot.. So my ego was put quickly into check... Just saying... Maybe it was the hat and bowtie. Gays are sticklers about proper attire.
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Maybe it was the hat and bowtie. Gays are sticklers about proper attire. No Grog.. it was the size 16 shoes.. guaranteed.. ...hahaha...
Author KaRo Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 Anyway... I saw someone I sent a message to deleted my message (I think without reading it), so I sent them another one in case they get a high volume...hope that doesn't come across as buggy. But I guess that isn't a good thing when they delete it without replying. Oh well, I guess I'll find out soon.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Anyway... I saw someone I sent a message to deleted my message (I think without reading it), so I sent them another one in case they get a high volume...hope that doesn't come across as buggy. But I guess that isn't a good thing when they delete it without replying. Oh well, I guess I'll find out soon. IF you can't even handle rejection online, I wonder how well you handle it in person?
Author KaRo Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 So, you think that was flat out rejection, I thought it might have been that person got a high volume of emails, or some such. But yeah it was probably just rejection. And rejection online and in person are fundamentally the same thing.
flc Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Anyway... I saw someone I sent a message to deleted my message (I think without reading it), so I sent them another one in case they get a high volume...hope that doesn't come across as buggy. But I guess that isn't a good thing when they delete it without replying. Oh well, I guess I'll find out soon. Get use to it, the first thing people look at is your picture if it does not appeal to them it goes into the trash can. Generally online you will find people do not respond if they are not interested, it is just easier. If they think they may be interested later they will save the email but if they have no interest it will get deleted. I think my success rate with email was only about 15% replies and as I said earlier most of the best dates I have had come from women who contact me first. Don't stress, just keep playing until something works out. If you want to increase your chances further try more than one service.
Author KaRo Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 Get use to it, the first thing people look at is your picture if it does not appeal to them it goes into the trash can. Generally online you will find people do not respond if they are not interested, it is just easier. If they think they may be interested later they will save the email but if they have no interest it will get deleted. I think my success rate with email was only about 15% replies and as I said earlier most of the best dates I have had come from women who contact me first. Don't stress, just keep playing until something works out. If you want to increase your chances further try more than one service. Well, that's why I went on a diff site to get opinions on my pic, to make sure there weren't any problems with it, and the those that viewed the pic said it was good/gave positive comments. I guess maybe I'll see if I can get some other opinions lol. Someone else contacted me, but they didn't have a pic...oh geez.
flc Posted August 21, 2008 Posted August 21, 2008 Well, that's why I went on a diff site to get opinions on my pic, to make sure there weren't any problems with it, and the those that viewed the pic said it was good/gave positive comments. I guess maybe I'll see if I can get some other opinions lol. Someone else contacted me, but they didn't have a pic...oh geez. Get use to the fact that some people will find you attractive and others will not. As long as the picture is reasonable and represents what you really look like you will be fine. If someone send you an email without a pic and you are interested just tell them that you would like to see a picture before continuing any discussion. People understand that there has to be a physical attraction so they should not mind sending you a picture. If they don't then walk away. Also if the message you get is from someone who looks like a super model is 15 years younger than you and lives in another State, delete it. Probably a guy in Nigeria looking to get some money at some point.
Author KaRo Posted August 21, 2008 Author Posted August 21, 2008 Well, I'm 23, so 15 years younger would be scary lol. But has that happened to you before, then?
flc Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 Well, I'm 23, so 15 years younger would be scary lol. But has that happened to you before, then? How about once or twice a week. Lot's of people scamming on date sites just like everywhere else on the internet. Just use your head. The emails are quite entertaining though "I see picture, its is most nice, love is for me for you, please email me xxxx.yahoo.com" nonsense like this. Maybe us older folks get targeted more since they figure we are all lonely old guys with lots of money.
Jersey Shortie Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 KaRo, all I can say for myself is if some guy sent me an email asking me how his picture looked, I might respond and tell him but I think I would be turned off by the lack of confidence. You can't seek validation out from other women. Especially women you are trying to date. Because if they say you are hot, you will be on a high, and if they say you aren't, you will just as easily be on a low. And that is too much baggage for anyone. If it helps, my friends and I are all attracted to very different phsycial attributes. Maybe you should work on your confidence? Don't know how one does that al lthe time as I am sometimes unconfident myself.
bigmanpayne Posted August 22, 2008 Posted August 22, 2008 No Grog.. it was the size 16 shoes.. guaranteed.. ...hahaha... LOL!! you are crazy!
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