Xillow Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 To make the story as simple as possible, my gf of 2 years and I just broke up earlier in the week. We finalized our decision to do so in person. After it was official, we had a little picnic in her backyard. That may seem strange, but it was a tough decision to breakup for both of us. We are really compatable together, and really only broke up because we were not ready to settle down in one relationship yet (yes it took 2 years to figure that out). Anyways, during our picnic she asked if I wanted to try dating again in a few months. I agreed. She also asked if we could see each other one more time before we went to school, I agreed again. During our picnic there was A LOT of sexual tension. After two years of belonging to each other we were suddenly off limits to one another. She called that night, just to see how things were going, and we proceeded to have a normal conversation afterwards. That was the last time we talked, (which was only 2 days ago). So thats basically where i'm at now. I guess I'm trying to decide if i should completly detach myself from her until we can get back together and stay together? Would having random flings with her along the way be harmful to a having a serious future with her? I think part of my problem is that I want to pursue her now, even though i know it would ultimatly hurt my chances in the end.
carhill Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 From reading your backstory, I would suggest you completely detach and go enjoy school and experience the possibilities with other young ladies. Your ex clearly isn't ready to be in a mature LTR and that's OK. You're both young. Others may disagree, but I think any sexual relations with your ex during this period would be a mistake, on many levels. But I know how youth are If what you have shared is elemental, it will be with you for a long time. No one knows what the future will bring.
Author Xillow Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Thanks for the input carhill. I feel there is a chance that maintaining my relationship could be more beneficial than letting it go. I know this relationship could potentially destroy any attempt at having a serious relationship with another girl, but at the same time i'm not sure im even looking for another serious relationship. Right now I think I might just rock the single and loving it lifestyle. Small update. She called again last night and subtley told me she was planning on calling frequently. Maybe every night kind of frequent. She really wants our friendship to last during the break.
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