Thared33 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Shortly, now. There's a receptionist in a place where I'm visiting tomorrow. I saw her last week, and worked up the courage to just tell her, "I think you're really cute" as I was leaving. She smiled and said thank you. When I'm there tomorrow, my idea is to give her a very short and nice note with my contact info. I'd probably work up the courage to just ask her if she wanted to keep in touch, but this is a place of business (she's a receptionist, now), and I'm thinking the note idea would be more discreet. She really couldn't have that kind of conversation with me there with others around, if you know what I mean. What I'm wanting out of this is potentially just a friend/acquaintance to keep in touch with, and not necessarily dating... because I don't know if she's single or not. I'm happy with just not losing touch and having someone to talk to =) What do you think?
motive2002 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I dunno, you could just be bold and ask for her number right there in front of God and everyone. I mean, you got nothing to lose and it if she's interested in you that will make a pretty strong second impression to follow up your first one. When she smiled and said thanks the first time you said she was cute.. was there some good eye contact? Was it a bit lingering? Even if she says no, or has a boyfriend, you still come up a winner. You'll still feel more confident haven taken that chance..
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 When I told her, she paused for about 1-2 seconds (trying to process what I said) and smiled, then said thanks. I'll pay more attention tomorrow. I COULD just walk in there and be like, "HEYYYY!!!!!! See the receptionist, everyone?" *points to the girl* "I WANT HER PHONE NUMBER!!!" But that'd embarrass everyone What I'm going to do is try to talk to her whenever the possibility arises tomorrow. If there's a chance and the scene is clear -- no people, I'm going to talk to her. If for some reason the circumstances are right and I have time, I'll ask her directly if she wants to stay in touch.. and then give her the note anyway! And if there isn't a chance to talk, I'll at least make effort to slip her the note. But when I am there, I'm going to make sure to look her in the eyes and smile =)
Lizzie60 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 If I were you I would give her my business card... make sure she has your email.. could be easier for her to contact you by email... or you could ask her her phone number or email.. if there is no one around.. that might even work best.. Good luck tomorrow!
norajane Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 No! No notes! You're a man, not a 12 year old! You walk up to her with a big grin, pick up a pen from her desk and a post-it note, and ask her for her phone number! "I'd like to take you out sometime. May I call you?" No notes!
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Ok guys and girls, I've got a plan, which also involves a backup plan. The reason I wanted to do the note thing is because it's a small doctor's office and other receptionists are behind/beside her, as well as others in the lobby. She knows that I'm coming in tomorrow, so I think she might be expecting something. I talked to her on the phone briefly today to schedule coming in. Ok, so my plan is this. As I'm leaving, I'm going to straight up ask her if she wants to keep in touch. If she says yes, I'm going to keep a pen in my pocket, which also has the note in it and write my number on it. If she says no (for some reason I'm thinking she won't even with a boyfriend..), I'll just hand her the note without writing my number on it. The trick is that if she does say no, she still has my email address and myspace address JUST IN CASE if she ever so happens to change her mind. I'm staying in touch now, eh? Ok, last thing. Exactly how should I phrase this? My exact plan is below. Please critique it =) I'm going to nod at her for her attention, move a bit closer to her, look her dead in the eyes, and say exactly, "Would you like to keep in touch?" and not lose eye contact. Then the plan I wrote above will take place. How's it sound?
nopainnogain Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 What up playboy. Sounds great. Go for it,you got absolutly nothing to lose. Buisness card is better.
Lizzie60 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I think this is a good plan... go for it.. Keep us informed ... good luck.. Don't worry.. notes or giving a business card is a good way to ask someone out.. you can always 'explain' your reasoning later..
norajane Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 You're thinking too much and you are making it much too complicated. And you're putting too much drama into 'keep in touch'. Keep in touch??? That's what I say to people I have no intention of keeping in touch with. All you need to do is smile at her and tell her you'd like to take her out and ask for her number. The other receptions behind her will notice and tease her about it when you leave and she'll blush and laugh and feel good about it. But you have to be direct, none of this wishy washy myspace blahdeeblah. And you just have to be friendly and open, not an actor.
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 I talked to her on the phone today to schedule an appt for tomorrow. When I gave her the compliment in person, she was hesitant (naturally). When speaking with her today, the convo was below: Me: I'd like to schedule an appt again yadayada Her: Ok what's your name? yada yada Me: Hey, is this the young lady that I spoke to when I was there last time? (then I said her name) Her: Yes. Me: I think you're the one I gave the compliment to last time. Her: Yeah... And then we said bye. I can't remember exactly. But she seemed a little 'huh?' or hesitant each time. I think it's just that I 'put her on the spot' and she didn't know what to say =) Ok, I'm going to report back to all of you in this thread tomorrow after the appt. EDIT: Look people, I'm going to be myself and see what comes out. I'll let it come naturally, I've got my advice already, and thanks for that. No more of this chatter about it. I'll update you all tomorrow =)
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 What did I do? Well, no matter, I'm still going to talk to her. I'll see how it goes.
nopainnogain Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 You had an opening to ask her over the phone and youre like "uh" Now it will be awkard . I dunno. You still have nothing to lose however. So continue with your plan. Good luck
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 You had an opening to ask her over the phone and youre like "uh" Now it will be awkard . I dunno. You still have nothing to lose however. So continue with your plan. Good luck Not to worry, because I actually decided against asking her on the phone. I wanted to do it in person because I think it's more appropriate and shows her that I'm confident in myself. And thanks. I'll keep you updated. See you tomorrow =)
Author Thared33 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 She happened to not be in today, surprisingly, and that's why I also wanted to have the note-deal, just in case. But before leaving, I talked to a much older woman working there -- probably in her 50s, and I asked her about the girl who wasn't in the office. I told the woman that the receptionist was very nice to me and that I wanted to give her something, so I wrote her name on the note and told the woman to please give it to her. Yes, it's only a note, but I'm hoping that the woman opens it up, prints it out and posts it all over the office . I hope she gets it rubbed in when she returns to work =) I've got another appt. in two weeks, so we'll see if I can finally talk to her in person. Maybe something will happen in between that time, who knows. I have a good feeling though.
nopainnogain Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 You should asked over the phone. This is getting ridiculous now. Involving a third party. You dont even know her lol. IMHO,you blew it.
Lizzie60 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 She happened to not be in today, surprisingly, and that's why I also wanted to have the note-deal, just in case. But before leaving, I talked to a much older woman working there -- probably in her 50s, and I asked her about the girl who wasn't in the office. I told the woman that the receptionist was very nice to me and that I wanted to give her something, so I wrote her name on the note and told the woman to please give it to her. Yes, it's only a note, but I'm hoping that the woman opens it up, prints it out and posts it all over the office . I hope she gets it rubbed in when she returns to work =) I've got another appt. in two weeks, so we'll see if I can finally talk to her in person. Maybe something will happen in between that time, who knows. I have a good feeling though. Now that you have given the note to this older lady.. maybe it would be a good idea to give her a call... you know her name now.. so just ask to speak to her.. and tell her you are the 'note sender' and ask her out.. Simple..
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I feel really awkward just reading this.
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