Habibti Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I couldn't find my older post, so I'll bring you briefly up to speed. Found out through friends that my ex had put up some pics of me on one website, and kept pics of me up on a myspace site. Sure enough I had to go snooping for myself..Yep, he put up pics of me. The myspace album I used to be in was edited and he took quite a few pics out of other things/people/but left me in there. We'd been split for 2 1/2 months and we do not have a friendship. This confused me, so some old people got in contact with me to tell me how much they'd missed me and didn't know what happened to me. They told me they kept having to ask the ex about me since they didn't hear from me. This surprised me- so I had to ask- what was the ex saying? Apparently, he's not even acknowledging we broke up to anyone. When they ask him how I am, I guess he acts like he didn't hear them. He doesn't say it didn't work out/we aren't together/sorry can't help you cause we don't really keep in touch. He just avoids the subject altogether. So, I decide a week ago to write him a post mail. I mean something really strange was going on here and I didn't know what, I didn't know if he was hoping we'd get together again or if there was some other motive. But exes just don't put pictures of their exes up, and keep old ones around in public websites, maybe if you're friends or you end it mutually- Maybe. This wasn't the case- he broke it off. So I hear nothing from him in regards to my post mail but I notice all my pictures are still up. So I shot him a brief email, just said hello, I sent you a letter in the post, have you received it yet? Basically, If he said yes and he didn't get the thing to take down my pictures WHICH HE SHOULD HAVE by the letter, I was going to make it clear to him. I don't even get a response to that email, but today on a website he has posted our old song. *shakes head* I really cannot believe how childish he is behaving. I never contacted him after the break up, called the house, etc etc. The only reason I contacted him to begin with was all this funnyness I was hearing and seeing. Now I'm being ignored or he's further playing a game. It's just strange, on the positive side I'm starting to get sick of his **** .
4dviceJunki3 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Sounds like to me that he's in denial that he's lost you. Or he's embarassed to admit something. Did you break up with him or did he break it off? Or was it a mutual agreement?
Author Habibti Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 He broke up with me. I don't know what there is to be embarassed about. I haven't bad mouthed him to anyone and he knows that. He doesn't need to tell anyone what happened either just because he says it didn't work out or we don't speak, sure some people might say oh I'm sorry what happened? But we're adults here, you can easily just say you know I prefer not to get into it.
4dviceJunki3 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Well then it seems that he's quite immature. Were you his first break-up or something? How old is he by the way? The reason why I ask is because with age comes experience and if he doesn't have much, he simply just may not know how to handle a break-up. OR He may be anticipating you finding out him denying it and hopefully get you to want him back. As sad as this sounds, a mans dream break-up is one that he breaks off with the girl and the girl would still want him back and he knows that so he keeps her around. That doesn't apply to all guys but majority of them like that feeling of having the upper-hand. It seems as if whatever he's doing, it's getting to you. You just need to let him go and he'll soon realize that he made a mistake. By that time, it may be too late...but for him!
Author Habibti Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 Past tense..was getting to me. Part of the reason I posted is because when I saw this childish behavior getting worse suddenly I felt free. Like, if I'm going to be a successful lawyer by the time I'm 30 I'm gonna need a boyfriend who isn't such a complete bonehead, warner! I'm 23, he's 35 almost 36. Hardly his first relationship or break up. It's getting deathly close to being too late for him. I'm happy about it. YAY.
0hpenelope Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Oh wow... good to see you, Habibti! It's been a while since you were on the boards. A total 180 from how you sounded like when we both first started on LS. You sound well and I'm happy. All I can say about your ex is:
Author Habibti Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 Ah yeah, I'm glad his true colors are starting to shine through. It's helping break that hold he has over me.
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