muse82 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 could my ex be thinking about us getting back together? Lets say she is not using me as an ego boost because she is not that type. Couldnt it be that she saw how much weight i lost and how athletic i looked(always used to be fat and a pot smoker) and she perhaps remembered how much of a nice guy i am? And is trying to get to know me all over again. It sure seems like that. I know i shouldnt look to much into it but she usually dont write all these questions..what i spend my time with and writes all this stuff we used to say to each other.. Perhaps she got jealous when she saw all the girls writing in my facebook.. Couldnt it be that the attraction she felt for me once has resurfaced? she now sees a man who is able to change his life around and become really really positive.she now sees what she is missing out of. And maybe her new life isnt all that great and she realizes she misses something in her life.Curiousity? she is very insecure and introvert and it takes along time for her thoughts to become action. Not to brag but i am way better looking than her recent boyfriends and male friends. sure looks play a part in all this. I was the one who made her see that love could be great and that not all guys are idiots. We have a very deep connection. She also seems to want to impress me with all sorts of stuff. She knows that i have or had it bad for her. I mean havent you had an ex that went from frog to prince and you wanted a piece of that? we have been broken up for 17 months now(who is counting) I hope my post dont sound to selfcentered, just saying it like it is. Cheers:-)
nowhereman82 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 or like you said "she is very insecure and introvert" it can be anything. And honestly you seem very centered on her possible reasons for coming back is because you look good and/or have had "lots of girls". I wouldn't be interested in a girl if that's what made them want me. Is that what makes you want a girl? Anyhow, who knows what is honestly going on in her head. For all you know she tried dating some guys and now feels she has to settle for you because she is having a hard time finding any decent guys because she is insecure and an introvert which makes meeting decent people tougher.
CaliGuy Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I wouldn't put too much stock into it. Unless she is busting down the doors to talk to you, unless she is apologizing and saying she made a mistake, all she is really doing is being curious. That is it. Have you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" yet? There's a lot of good advice on how to handle yourself and change your image FOR YOU, not for anyone else. It's been 17 months. Who cares who is better looking for not?! Attraction is based on feel with women, not looks. Trust me on that. It's how you make a woman feel that determines how attracted she is to you. I admit, being off the pot and losing weight probably helped you, but if she really loved you for who you are, the weight shouldn't matter that much. Maybe she was attracted to you physically but not emotionally? Emotional attraction is far stronger than phsyical.
BklynGuy Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I had an ex just like this. She was hot when I was with her and I was the overweight, (not ugly) guy. She played on my insecurities about weight, etc. We broke up, I began working out, got other girls (SUPERHOT). IMO, PLEASE! leave it alone. She acted the same way when I was fat as she did when I was skinny. I realized this AFTER letting her come back into my life that nothing would change with her. You have to understand, people create an image of a person, and sometimes when that image changes, they don't react to it the way a new person would because they stilll have that OLD image. If they can't appreciate you, then F**K them and find someone else. It's hard but sometimes for the best.
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