sundaysilence Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Hi I started a new job three months ago and hit it off straight away with the only male coworker (S), whom is in a steady relationship. From the start there was a lot of flirting, teasing, touching and eye contact and we just clicked. This attraction has been growing stronger and more intamit every time we work together. We have this amazing connection when we look into each others eyes, his nearly pop out of his head. This attraction has been noticed by our work mates and comments have been made. I have also made friends with a female coworker, (A) confided in her about my current relationship with my partner and she hers (she is getting married soon), generally opened up to each other. As far as I was concerned we were only hetro friends and there was certainly no attraction to her from my point of view. (I have toyed with the idea of a bi-relationship so did not fancy her). One day whilst talking with A and S, they suggested it would be great if I could come away with them on the works holiday with the residents. The was innuendo that things can get quiet raunchy between the coworkers. A group of us from work went out dancing on Weds night. A was already very drunk when we arrived, I went with her for a smoke and before I know it she was confiding in me that around 3 years ago she split up with her now fiance, during this time she ended up shagging S. which then progressed into a FMF 3 some with another co worker. The 2nd F member of the 3some got romantically attached to A and ended up being a bunny boiler, couldnt handle S and A relationship. Wow, that was complicated. After discussing this with A, I then sent S a text saying "What a Dark horse he is" and letting him know I knew and was not adverse to the idea of a 3some. A was very very drunk, S asked me to watch that she didnt have an accident in this state. So I stayed with A most of the night, in this time she kept repeating not to trust S as by now she knew I really liked him. I caught him watching me all night, esp when I was dancing, where ever he was he made sure he could see me. One of my other coworkers at the bar made a comment about S and if I knew about him and A and the trouble that happened concerning what happened in the past. She told me not to even think about going with S as he has a reputation of shagging all his coworkers and No she had not been there herself, but made it clear that I was mad to do so. Basically at the end of the night we were all saying goodbye, when I went to give A a brief hug and she ended up kissing me on the lips ( the 1st time a female has done that to me. bit shocked). S gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek, I said to him you Know the score and he said yes, he knew Id like a 3some, at this point I said but not with A. I may have been drunk but subconsiously I must of realised I was being set-up. We all went home our seperate ways, I was due to meet A for a coffee the following afternoon. I was not due in work the next day, but at 09.30 S phoned me to see how I was with my hangover (1st time he has called me) and if I was working this wkend as he was staying over at work all weekend, as we are care workers in a residental home. He asked when he would see me again and I actually went in that afternoon. The attraction between us was really strong again and when he talked to me on one to one his eyes where like "big puppy dog eyes", he was very concerned that I was driving with a hang over. That afternoon A called off the coffee meeting and has been acting really cool towards me. Do you think that I have been set up, to particiate in this 3some with S and A, and now she has the hump because I said I told him I wasnt attracted to her. What should I do about S, there is this amazing chemistry between us, and we are very attracted to each other. Is he just using me and should I know give him a very wide berth? I know he is a player, but can I not play him at his own game or is it gonna all end in tears. Thanks SS
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