RedThorn Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 ...but I know it is for the best. We had been together for about 6 months and, even though I really liked her and respected her, I never fell in love, unfortunately. I felt like I had to break up, I just did it. It feels really bad right now, I just hope it was for the best, for her and for me. She is great, and deserves to be loved. Do you think I did the right thing? Sincerely hope so.... Thanks for reading.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Yes, you did the right thing. The best thing you can do for someone that you don't feel that 'spark' for is to let them go as soon as you start feeling it. It is painful, but better for both in the long run. Things to consider: Don't offer friendship. People who are dumped are looking for something to soothe their hearts, and spending time - any time - with an ex they still love is soothing. It also causes them to harbor false hope and wishful thinking about a reconciliation. They think... "he/she wants to spend time with me! He/she misses me and must want me back!" Don't ask her friends about her. That will just confuse her about your motives. If she calls or contacts you, the most humane thing to do is to remind her gently that it is over and that you feel both of you would benefit from some 'no contact' time. Do not promise or even hint at an 'ending time' for this 'no contact'.
4dviceJunki3 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Borgia couldn't have said it better! Take that advice. The best thing to do in your life is to follow your heart as so everyone says right? Well, that's what you're doing right now. You don't want to mislead her and you surely don't want to complicate things for yourself. It seems as if you understand that the relationship may not be going anywhere for whatever reason, better to end it now then to wait later and feel twice as bad about it, plus hurt her even more. Make sure you keep no contact with this person because like Borgia said, it is only going to give her false hope and give her those sick feelings in her stomach; nobody likes those at all! Be the better person which you have already done and keep it this way. If you both were meant to be, that will eventually unfold.
Lishy Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Oh you definately did the right thing Be strong, you BOTH deserve to be and to feel in love.
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