Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Passion with a capital "P" was mentioned in pandagirl's thread so it made me want to start a thread about it. How many members need that mad passion and how many don't? Myself, I have to have it within a committed and exclusive relationship. It's got to make me weak at the knees and all over my man, with him, all over me.
Lovelybird Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Passion with a capital "P" was mentioned in pandagirl's thread so it made me want to start a thread about it. How many members need that mad passion and how many don't? Myself, I have to have it within a committed and exclusive relationship. It's got to make me weak at the knees and all over my man, with him, all over me. Me too :love:
Lyssa Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I have to have passion in my R - it's something that I can't live without. Without passion, what is R? That is for me anyway. I have come across friends who can live without passion. I don't get how that works.
Ocean-Blue Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I left my ex of eons b/c there was ZERO passion (it was never there). I need it.
Jake Barnes Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Well to be honest I never knew what that expression "weak in the knees" meant. I know what stiff above the knees is, but pictures of women I'll never even meet and don't really care about can do that from time to time. Id have to really respect the person and Id have to find them interesting and intelligent, that much I know, or else Id get bored Really it boils down to ones options and ones disposition to being alone or not
Prodigal Princess Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I definitely think that sexual chemistry is an integral component of a romantic relationship. However I'm not sure about the term 'passion'; it seems to suggest a bit of drama as well, which I cannot tolerate. TBF, do you mean to differentiate between passion and chemistry?
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 The mad passion I'm describing includes everything. It's not just a physical chemistry, it's that and emotional/intellectual chemistry all tied into one. You'll know it when it hits you 'cause there's no mistaking or replacing it!
Jake Barnes Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Youve been using a lot of exclamation points lately Are you feeling okay?
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 Shaddup! Shall I utilize a more formalized mode of text? Better now? Grrrr...you changed it from apostrophe to exclamation points.
pandagirl Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I think there is good passion and bad passion. I've felt Passion, and it wasn't indicative of anything substantial, except for feeling crazy and making bad decisions! What I need is a true connection, chemistry, attraction. I have found that sexual passion is instant, and intellectual passion is intrinsic depending on how compatible your personalities are, but emotional passion is something that takes time for me to grow into.
motive2002 Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Passion with a capital "P" was mentioned in pandagirl's thread so it made me want to start a thread about it. How many members need that mad passion and how many don't? Myself, I have to have it within a committed and exclusive relationship. It's got to make me weak at the knees and all over my man, with him, all over me. hell yes. Even when the "spark" is gone, you can still conjure up such passion. Well, at least I can hehe.
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 pandagirl, the way you've broken it down has given me insight into myself which intuitively, I did know but not in exact order. I'm driven as follows: 1. Intellectually - He's got to stimulate my mind. 2. Emotionally - Once he's got my mind, then I have to like him. 3. Physically - Once he's got my mind and heart, he's got my body. Looking at your order, you perceive things quite differently. Vive la différence. motive, how did I know you'd need it too!
Pyro Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Plain and simple: No passion= no lasting relationship.
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Hold on Pyro. I thought you were all about putting out fires, not starting them. On the otherhand...Pyro = job security for a fireman!
Pyro Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Hold on Pyro. I thought you were all about putting out fires, not starting them. On the otherhand...Pyro = job security for a fireman! You're a fast learner.
pandagirl Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 pandagirl, the way you've broken it down has given me insight into myself which intuitively, I did know but not in exact order. I'm driven as follows: 1. Intellectually - He's got to stimulate my mind. 2. Emotionally - Once he's got my mind, then I have to like him. 3. Physically - Once he's got my mind and heart, he's got my body. Looking at your order, you perceive things quite differently. Vive la différence. motive, how did I know you'd need it too! I didn't list them in ranking, but if I had to, I'd go: 1. Emotional 2. Intellectual 3. Physical However, they all sort of mesh together at some point! But, question: at what level do these all have to be operating at? For instance, could a high level of intellectual passion make up for the lack of emotional or physical passion?
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 I didn't list them in ranking, but if I had to, I'd go: 1. Emotional 2. Intellectual 3. Physical However, they all sort of mesh together at some point! But, question: at what level do these all have to be operating at? For instance, could a high level of intellectual passion make up for the lack of emotional or physical passion? Oh, it's not a ranking, this is the order attraction happens to me. Without the initial intellectual stimulation, it will never go further. I need all three, in the exact order previously listed, before passion happens. But... When it happens, it absolutely levels me! How about you?
pandagirl Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Oh, it's not a ranking, this is the order attraction happens to me. Without the initial intellectual stimulation, it will never go further. I need all three, in the exact order previously listed, before passion happens. But... When it happens, it absolutely levels me! How about you?' Ahhh, I see. If it's by the order in which it happens it's: physical, followed closely by intellectual, then emotional. The last guy I dated, the architect, had physical and intellectual in the bag, but we broke up before it ever got to the emotional level. Thank god! HOw long does it take for "passion to happen"? Is it sudden. Do you know from from the start? Will you give it time?
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 ' Ahhh, I see. If it's by the order in which it happens it's: physical, followed closely by intellectual, then emotional. The last guy I dated, the architect, had physical and intellectual in the bag, but we broke up before it ever got to the emotional level. Thank god! HOw long does it take for "passion to happen"? Is it sudden. Do you know from from the start? Will you give it time? 1. and 2. happen fairly quickly. It's 3. that I drag my heels on, until I'm certain that 1. and 2. are real on my side and that it's being returned at the same level. I do this both consciously and subconsciously, as a self-protection mechanism. After 3. I've fully bonded, thus fully invested.
pandagirl Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 1. and 2. happen fairly quickly. It's 3. that I drag my heels on, until I'm certain that 1. and 2. are real on my side and that it's being returned at the same level. I do this both consciously and subconsciously, as a self-protection mechanism. After 3. I've fully bonded, thus fully invested. It's interesting how as individuals we all have our most vulnerable spots and how different they are from person to person.
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 It's interesting how as individuals we all have our most vulnerable spots and how different they are from person to person. Yes! That's what's so fascinating about LS. Not only do you gain insights about other people, you gain insights about yourself even when it's not intended. It's as if you hear a proverbial bell going off in your head when something rings true.
underpants Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 I think there is healthy passion and dysfunctional passion. Both will stir. The best outcomes, require proper cooking methods. Select your ingredients wisely and check the temperature often. Stir with a soft wooden spoon ocassionaly.
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 No doubt underpants, which is why it's best to take your time before jumping in with both feet. On the otherhand, when you take your time, is this really living life to its fullest? Balance.
underpants Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 No doubt underpants, which is why it's best to take your time before jumping in with both feet. On the otherhand, when you take your time, is this really living life to its fullest? Balance. "balance" When you shop for an ingredient do you just grab whatever will do. I'm sure you inspect it and thump it and make sure it is suitable for your needs. As would the other gender do in kind. We are all shopping together. Buyer's remorse stinks. Yet, even this evening I had to inject some healthy drama into my relationship. I don't expect him to just know what I want, I tell him and in kind ask him to tell me. Then I leave him alone to think about what I said and to reflect on his response. . Shoot, what do I know. Like I said another time. I like to make all new mistakes instead of the same old ones. So this is a new experiment for me. Currently in frozen foods...
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Haha...the frozen food aisle, my fave! The balance comments were directed more at me, than to you underpants. Something I need to learn. Btw, I'm not coming to your house for dinner if you thump your fruits and veggies.
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