lynn650 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 So, I'm a bit confused and was hoping to get some outside perspective on this situation. I met this guy in Feb. and we began a type of no-strings-attached relationship. We have amazing chemistry and have a lot in common, but he just didn't want a girlfriend. We get together maybe once or twice a month. Generally, he'd always come over, we'd have fun...and he'd leave. Around May, he started spending the night afterwards because he had moved to a town that is a little farther away from mine (we both live in a major metroplex). We started talking more and seemed to get a little closer. He's currently without a private residence and staying with a friend and I kind of get the feeling that sometimes he comes over just to escape that or because he has to work the next day. He came over this last week after a difficult night. We didn't have sex...instead we talked for hours (as we often do anyway). At one point he told me that he was glad that I was "normal,"and that the only women that are attracted to him are psychotic losers. He said he liked how we had conversations and could interact with each other...and that I listened to what he had to say. I told him that I loved that he was the only person that can make me forget all about the chaos in my every day, and he gently kissed my forehead and said "i'm glad." I told him that I loved our completely random conversations, and he said he was quite paranoid about it....he talks randomly out of nervousness. I asked him if he was nervous me, and he said "all the time" and that he felt as if he had to walk on tip-toes with me because he wants/feels that he needs to impress me. After that convo, we fell asleep and he held me all night....something he has never done before. The next day, he said he would come back late that night after his show...and he never showed...nor called. I was a bit perturbed! Yesterday, he came by to pick up the stuff he left and he was really apologetic about the whole incident. Then he asked if I wanted to get dinner with him. He took me to a pretty pricey restaurant and we had more awesome conversation. We seem to never run out of things to discuss and he seemed interested in me. As we were walking out of the restaurant and I was thanking him for dinner, he put his arm around me and said "I'm glad I could take you....I really like being with you." He kept paying me little compliments...and it was nice When we got back to my place, he gathered his stuff up and headed for the door. He wants me to come to his show on Wed. night and even offered to come pick me up and drive me out there. Is it just me, or does this relationship seem to be getting a little bit more...umm...NOT-nsa??? I guess I should probably mention that we didn't even have sex in any part of the above situation. It seems as if he's interested in me, but I keep second guessing it only because he's only been interested in sex before all of this. Maybe he's just feeling guilty?? I have no idea....any thoughts??
Ocean-Blue Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 It definitely seems like it's heading in the nonFWB direction (esp. since he has maintained his "I really like you" line of sentiment after that night - so it wasn't just a random event). Don't overthink it. You'll find out where it's heading soon enough, right? If you focus too much on what is happening, you might not enjoy the ride as much.
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