rachel85 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 So...My friend set me up to meet this guy. A guy that is supposedly a male version of me. She was bound and determined for us to meet. The catch is that he is leaving for Africa in a couple weeks and will be living there, only coming back for a couple weeks at a time for holidays. I'm in college and have a major that doesn't exactly give me a lot of spare time for close-distance dating, so this whole thing didn't phase me much, especially after everything I'd heard about him. We have the same goals and both are humanitarian driven. ANYWAY, I met him last night and added him as a friend on facebook this afternoon and he accepted just a little bit later. Now what? Do the no contact/pride thing, or write to him a short "It was nice to meet you! Take care :)" or something... and also he's never been in a serious relationship...if that matters. But I don't know how he feels because he's leaving in a couple weeks. Please help! Thanks
gardnerj Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 ask him an open ended question that isn't blatantly "are you interested" but will still give you information. Or I mean, just say hey to him and see how he reacts. Show that you're interested. ain't nothin wrong with that. the worst he can say is "oh well that's cute, too bad i leave in a couple weeks"
Author rachel85 Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 Good point... So I wrote him Monday morning just saying "It was nice briefly meeting you! Enjoy your time in the states and of course...those Olympics :)" I left it to where he could reply or where he couldn't reply and it was cool, but wouldn't be too weird if he didn't. He didn't write back... Until 1 day later, this morning, and said "hey! thanks for the message. it was great to meet you as well. hope you have a great semester!" I want to keep talking to this guy and but need a boost on what to say to keep talking with what's been said. It's hard because there's nothing but "Thanks!...blahblahblah..." Need some analyzing here and advice on what to put please I've got nothing...
D-Lish Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 My suggestion is not to try and start anything. I imagine he would be relucant to start something new himself. It's not logical to begin something so close to his departure date. I met a great guy I had two date with at the beginning of the summer. He told me on the second date he was moving West for a new job the 1st of August. I distanced myself immediately. We keep in touch- and chat on facebook still. But it made little sense to start something that was a lost cause at that time. Keep in touch- see what happens when you come back. I guarantee if he is getting ready to leave, he probably won't be receptive to starting anything.
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