Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 This guy is also very inexperienced, at least inexperienced with starting a relationship. The fact that he says he has had no good Oportunities shows it. I don't disagree but if he wants something to happen, he's going to have to take the initiative.
shadyp Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 ok just KISS her then!!! so have u tried yet and what happened!!!
Author gardnerj Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Like I said he probably has little experience starting off a relationship and got scared when she didn't give him any totaly obvious openings. Yeah, I need to do something, which I am next time we meet. But I have experience starting it off, just not with shy girls. (or whatever the problem is) and about the totally obvious openings, she is withdrawing. that doesn't mean move in. it means either she's shy or something else. probably that she's foolin' me into thinking we're dating.
Author gardnerj Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 Sitting at a movie, close to each other for hours isn't a good enough opportunity to take her hand? Come on now, forget the kiss for now, just hold her hand. If she doesn't pull her hand away, when you leave the theatre, put your arm around her...etc, etc. This is one shy, very inexperienced girl you're dealing with. YOU have to take the initiative without going overboard and freaking her out right away. sure i need to do something. it be better though if i had an idea if she liked me or not
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 sure i need to do something. it be better though if i had an idea if she liked me or not She's gone out with you four times. She likes you, already? Now take her hand the next time you're with her and see if she rejects your touch. This is guaranteed the most cautious approach EVAR!
Balthazar Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 OP, try the following: Try to be seated right next to her in a cafe, or whatever;but you have to be close. A couch is even better. As you are talking, just hold her hand a bit as you are making a point. Do it softly, then let it go. Try to do this action 2-3 times. Concurrently, give her small pecks on the cheek as you both share a joke or a moment. She will probably be shocked with the first kiss, but after 2 or 3 she should be alright with it. Follow the steps with small hand holds and pecks on the cheek during the night. This is sufficient warm up and she will be ready for more, so you can go for a full kiss. Don't force anything, and make all touch and kisses light and playful. KEEP SMILING and act a bit shy at times. You can also play with her locks a bit, twirling them between your fingers. If she seems comfortable, massage her a bit on the area between the shoulder and neck. Do it lightly and comment that she seems "relaxed"(even if she isn't). NOTE: BE careful with the massage, if it works she will be all over you. If it doesn't, she may close down. Tread carefully! This technique has worked for me numerous times, I hope it helps you and the young lady over that difficult first hurdle. Good Luck,
Balthazar Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 Which cheek and which lips? Carhill, you sly dog!
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