spyders Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Good day to all; I have been having an affair, the ow husband found out and now he wants to kill me / beat me up ...etc... what should i do? sorry for the quick post. just a little stressed.
whichwayisup Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Stay away, far away from your OW and her husband. Don't try to contact her at all, no calls, no emails, or text messages...For your sake and for hers.
troubadour Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 It appears that you have already had your cake and now it is time for you to fight her husband... it is quite logical...
D-Lish Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Agreed, a fight will determine who gets the woman. Winner take all.
bentnotbroken Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Make sure your will is in order. When you dip your wick in the somebody else's oil, it is possible it will get burned. Have thought about leaving town?
LadyDi Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Just lay low. I'm sure he's saying/threatening things out of anger and may not really have any intentions of carrying them out. he's just really angry! Stay away, stay low and out of sight/mind. With some time, it may blow over (at least the physical threats)
whichwayisup Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I do hope that you know your affair is over. I hope you aren't laying low and then hope one day your affair will continue.
pelicanpreacher Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 If you're afraid of facing this man in fear of a physical altercation then run and keep running! Depending upon what part of the country you're from you could possibly be in a lot of danger. I hope you've learned your lesson and will refrain from playing with another man's emotions, food, or money ever again!
troubadour Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Hey guys... why are you telling him to lay low? He should stand up and fight... Affairs with married woman are about "living on the edge"... right... and now our BAD BOY is s...... his pants about getting his ass kicked by a husband... sorry guys... I have been OM a few times but I was always aware that I might have a "thing" with a husband at some point too... I think D-Lish is right... let them fight... and the winner get the woman.
pelicanpreacher Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Problem is nowadays people resort to deadly force far too often without thinking! This MM may be highly emotionally charged and totally unpredicatable in his reaction to a physical confrontation with OP. This spells danger in big bold letters that should be heeded with all due caution. JMO!
bentnotbroken Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I wonder what he expected to happen? You know big boy panties require you fill them with big boy balls.
taylor Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Good day to all; I have been having an affair, the ow husband found out and now he wants to kill me / beat me up ...etc... what should i do? sorry for the quick post. just a little stressed. If you love her, fight. If you don't, run.
astra77 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Good day to all; I have been having an affair, the ow husband found out and now he wants to kill me / beat me up ...etc... what should i do? sorry for the quick post. just a little stressed. You just thought of this NOW ?
astra77 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I wonder what he expected to happen? You know big boy panties require you fill them with big boy balls. HA HA HA :lmao::lmao: bnb THAT was funny
taylor Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Just curious.. Do OW ever worry about getting killed or beaten up by the MM wife..or is this just a guy thing? And How many OM actually do take this possibility seriously before/during the affair?
troubadour Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Taylor... situations of this kind happen quite often these days. Women are perfectly capable of violence to the same degree as men are.
bentnotbroken Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 By the grace of God, the ow in my situation is alive and well. I have a pretty ummmm, let's just say not so loving actions toward those who piss me off. Women are just as capable of violence as men.
Owl Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 We've seen a couple of threads over the years about confrontations that turned physical between OW and BW's. To the OP, who I don't expect will come back... End the affair. Break off any and all contact with her. If you are threatened by him again, then go the police. Don't try to "fight" for her...you have no idea what you may end up against.
Author spyders Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]first off..[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]I am not fighting over any woman..sorry.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]This is not even my wife. I don't love her.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]I love my wife,believe it or not after the whole experience this has mad me appreciate [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]her even more.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]I think the best option is going to the local police and let them handle it.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][sIZE=2]Thanks for all the posts.[/sIZE][/FONT]
Owl Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 So are you going to end the affair with her? Or are you going to continue to see her but hope to dodge him? Don't get the police involved if you're going to keep seeing his wife.
whichwayisup Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I am not fighting over any woman..sorry. Okay, so you know the loveless affair with the married woman is over, right? This is not even my wife. I don't love her. So, why did you choose to cheat on your wife if you don't love the MW? What made you do this to your wife, to betray her in the worst way? I love my wife,believe it or not after the whole experience this has mad me appreciate her even more. Little heads up - Fact that the MW's husband knows about the affair, the chances are VERY high that he WILL tell your wife. How has you cheating on your life, whom you claim to love, helped you and made you appreciate her even more? Imagine your wife cheating on YOU and saying that her cheating made her appreciate you more. How would you feel? Would you be thankful to her for doing that? Sorry to sound harsh, but you're totally in a selfish affair-fog mindset right now. Your wife has NO clue you've cheated on her, and yeah from your stance, it's helped you, but when she finds out, and chances are she will, get ready for loss of faith, trust and love she has had in you throughout your marriage. All that will disappear and be replaced with pain, anger, feelings of betrayal and mistrust - Possibly make her want to leave you. Are you prepared for the fallout and consquences of your choices by cheating on her? I think the best option is going to the local police and let them handle it. Well, chances are then your wife WILL find out the truth if you involve the police. Question is, will you be the one to tell your wife what you've done first before MW's husband does?
troubadour Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 "I am not fighting over any woman... sorry." Spyders... you are such a pussy!!!
bentnotbroken Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 "I am not fighting over any woman... sorry." Spyders... you are such a pussy!!! No, that's what got him ducking and hiding.
whichwayisup Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 "I am not fighting over any woman... sorry." Spyders... you are such a pussy!!! Hey, would you say that to a female poster in the same situation as Spyders? Because many MW or OW don't want to face the betrayed wife just as much as this guy.
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