bitterSmile Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 ok, im not even sure if im posting this where i should, but here it goes. So, last school year a lot of people transferred to my school about in Feb or January. There were a few new to my class, ok. Now, one of them ends up liking me, [he says that the second day of school], he's a great kid and everything. We're a 'couple' you could say, we stablished some rules before we went umh, steady? you could say. The first one was that, even if it didn't work out, we would still be friends. When he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend i said, "Yeah" [damn i dont even remember what i said]. the thing is, the school is rather new so it doesn't have many students. my boy is in my class, the problem is, i dont think i like him like this. i realized that i just consider him a very good friend, but it's been a month and that is what it took me to understand it completely, i kept on wondering why it didn't feel so, good? but kept on thinking it was just because i was nervous cause it's my first. school starts tomorrow and we're together. i really want to break up with him as fast as i can before it gets harder, i dont even know if he might feel the same way. truth is, im trying my hardest not to show it but, im waiting not so patiently for him to make any kind of mistake so i will actually have an excuse, i know. lame. i need help, i know im just supposed to tell him how i feel but, as a singer and a writer, it is WAY easier to just write him a poem or sing my feelings to him, but i dont think it would be correct if i just wrote it and handed it to him, i much more rather talk to him, i think he at least deserves that. help?
JoeNewbie Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Be respectful. Be straightforward. Tell him face to face that you don't think it's going to work out and then give him space. Don't be in his face, don't try to be his friend. Be firm about your position so that he doesn't have any false hopes. Hope it helps.
D-Jam Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Yeah...tell him the truth. Hopefully he won't take it too personally and will still like you as a friend. I also suggest you be a pal to him. Maybe when you make some gal pals, one or two of them might be single...and you could introduce them to your buddy. Maybe he'll then do the same with guys. Biggest mistake I see too many women do with their guy friends is that they only go to them to be their dates to weddings when they have no BF, or they cry on the shoulders of those guys, and yet also never seem to think of them when they come across single lonely gal pals. A real friend is one who is there for the other person...not one who just runs to them when they need something.
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