slim255 Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I met this girl, we get on really well with each other, have only known her a month. She really likes me. She is a religious girl, quite religious but she told me being a non believer is not a problem, she likes being around non believers more than believers. She went away for two weeks a week ago, we have been keeping in contact by txt messages, have been sending heaps to each other. The other day I got one from her saying “I have something to tell you txt me when you get home” so I get home and txt her, she said “I have been praying for you” I was thinking what the hell, anyway I told her that it was fine just don’t try and convert me, she said she would never try that. Anyway I got home from work lastnight, (Sunday). I txt her and told her I would be working next Saturday but would take Sunday off to spend the day with her when she gets back (I have been working 7 day weeks these last few weeks) she said that’s cool we can do that, then she said “no chance of seeing you Saturday night you will be tired” I said “ I can drive over to see you after work Saturday and stay the night as we will be spending Sunday together” she lives 20 min drive away. She said that may not be a good idea and that she has church on Sunday (why the heck didn’t she tell me that before?) I told her it wasn’t a problem id just go to work on Sunday, she got a little upset when I said that, she told me she didn’t want me to work so much and asked if I could just do half day Sunday, then she said “guess it would be another week before I see you” I told her I could do half a day on Sunday. She then said that you are going to over work and wear yourself out and when will I get to spend time with you if your working all the time.That got all sorted out then an hour later I get a txt from her “do you ever think this would ever work between us, you being a non believer and me being one” I told her I didn’t see a problem with it but it sounds like you are doubting things.She then said “im not doubting it I just want you to know you can come to church with me any time” At that stage im thinking what the hell is going on here, she knows how I feel, I have told her I will never be a believer, so I replied to her and said “ im never going to be a believer, if you want someone that is then you will have to keep looking” her reply “that is something that is a must so I guess this means I need to keep looking, can we still be friends and hang out” she then went on to say she thought she could convert me. I am so lost with this, right at the start she didn’t have a problem with it, its like she has changed. You know im not to worried about it, being friends with her would be just fine, id just like some thought on it so I can understand where she was coming from
Mahatma Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 This will NEVER EVER work. I promise you. It just can't. I am currently dating a christian girl, and she knows I am not religious at all and she is fine with that and leaves it completely out of our relationship. However, I have had girlfriends who also "pray" for me to be saved and try to get me to become a believer and it just never will work out. Sounds like you are not too far in and now would be a good time to just turn it into a friendship and leave it at that.
Author slim255 Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 Do you think thats what she was praying for? oh god!
Author slim255 Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 Oh I forgot, the last txt I got from her lastnight said. " I thought I could make it work cause you ar so amazing, more than I could ever dream. I am really sorry I dont know what else to say"
carhill Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 When someone you've known a month starts praying for you, watch out Seriously, she did you a favor. Religion and faith are big compatibility issues as they go to the essence of one's psyche. If you are agnostic or don't practice (I'm Catholic but don't participate or go to church), don't start dating someone you know to have religion as an important part of their life. It just won't work out.
Mahatma Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Do you think thats what she was praying for? oh god! I'm 100% sure. I've been through this before. It kills me to think about how religion can be such a huge roadblock.
JoeNewbie Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 Religion covers a lot more territory than you might think. Religion is at the core of a person's beliefs, it is the essence of their personality. I'm not saying you should or should not date this person but you should expect some difficulties dealing with fundamentals.
Enema Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I am so lost with this, right at the start she didn’t have a problem with it, its like she has changed. Right at the start she didn't have a problem with it because she had planned to convert you from day 1. Once she realized you weren't easy prey, she told the truth and it was over. Sort of ironic that she had a problem with honesty.
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