dreamy1945 Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 It seems that what goes around comes around only to the OW/OM. The MM goes back home to the wife and the OW is left to live with the consequences of her behavior. But the MM gets to go right back home to a wife that loves him. Do you think Karma ever effect them?
Mz. Pixie Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 He also has to deal with a woman scorned in his wife and work on recovery efforts- I wouldn't think that's exactly a walk in the park.
JackJack Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 To me, Karma applies to anyone that has done another wrong. Also reaping what you sow is pretty much the same thing as Karma or the what goes around comes around saying.
Rorocher Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 I think, everyone eventually gets what's coming to them, that's probably the way the universe maintains balance. However, they might not get what's coming to them according to any kind of schedule or even in direct response to what they did wrong. So the MM may very well go back to his happy home and carry on life with his wife while the OW is left holding the bag. But someway, somehow, karma will eventually pay him back for putting others through hurt and disappointment. And I also think that the OW will get hers too for her contribution in interfering with someone else's marriage assuming she was aware of it.
Ronni_W Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Do you think Karma ever effect them? My personal belief is that Karma is a balancing agent not a punishment, so it applies equally to EVERYONE...including the Pope, Dalai Lama and Mother Theresa. And others do not hold that to be true. If it is that we all just choose beliefs that make us feel best and happiest, then I'd suggest that you adopt for yourself whatever beliefs works best for you
Dark-N-Romantic Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Karma, justice, paying for one's sins differ in a case-by-case basis. Just like all other men and women don't get what one would considered just deserts, the same goes for the cheating spouse. In some cases the one who pays the price in our fleshy view is usually the spouse and/or children. I know of at least three cases from being in the military where a married spouse brought HIV/AIDS to his spouse after he cheated. It is like the statistics of drunk drivers who die in a car accident to those killed by drunk drivers (which is higher). I think the karma we are looking for usually happens more inwardly vice outwardly. For most of us, we expect to see a person fall into ruin for their cheating, but in truth, most suffer from within. They usually are too busy dying inwardly from their corruptive actions in stead of learning, being honest, taking their knocks, and then trying to improve themselves. And I think that is why it is up to that spouse to reveal the infidelity once it becomes known. The cheaters must be shown for what they are to those who trust and believe in them. It is more of a shock to cheaters when their secrets are revealed to others and know they have to give an account for their actions. This is the biggest problem with America, we want to brush it under the carpet and not give the spouse protection and a course of action when they are wronged and/or put at risk because of their spouse's affair(s). That is why there are such great websites like Girl Friend Don't Date Him (though I think there should be a better way for men who may be falsely represented to have the information removed) and shows like Cheaters. Sometimes Karma is missed in these cases because the spouse chooses to keep quiet. DNR
Lizzie60 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 It seems that what goes around comes around only to the OW/OM. The MM goes back home to the wife and the OW is left to live with the consequences of her behavior. But the MM gets to go right back home to a wife that loves him. Do you think Karma ever effect them? No.. I don't think so.. I never believed in karma.. (I'd probably be dead ) Not all OWs are left with the consequences.. I'm thinking about a MW who wants a fling outside her M.. but is not willing to leave her H and kids.. or a single (like me) who doesn't want the MM...
stoopid_guy Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Do you think Karma ever effect them? I hope not. Lawyers are enough to worry about. But I really don't believe in Karma. If anything, it's a product of guilt and/or other people's feelings toward the "bad" person.
littlekitty Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Karma always bites you in the ass at some point. He'll be trying to repair a marriage and life too. He'll be living with the guilt too.... and a p*ssed off women... that might be Karma in itself...
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