mistieyed Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 After dating someone for four months, he started to fade and ultimately just disappeared without any explanation as to why. Because I am someone that communicates, this is tearing me up inside two months after the fact - I reached out once to him via email about a month ago and basically said that I didn't understand how he could just disappear without a word and asked why but of course, got no response. How can someone be so cruel as to end it that way? and secondly, why does this hurt worse than any other breakup I have had? it truly makes me not want to date anymore. If you have any advice other than do things for yourself (because I have been), or any experience with this type of personality, I would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.
saams Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 i been in the same kind of situation once... either he completly lost interest or he found someone else.. either way you should forget about him, start dating new people.. when you find someone you like, you'll forget about this one really fast.
HopeDiesLast Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 sometimes its easier to drop off the face of the earth than actually explain to someone why things are going to work out. simply put- hes a coward and the confrontation and breaking up with you were probably a daunting task in his head. so he just disappeared to save himself the headache. Someone who does that is, cruel, selfish and immature. Its gonna be hard to get over it because you're so hurt- but keep telling yourself- im worth at least a f***ing phone call!!! Because you are misti.
beautifullove Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 HDL and S are right, but to add to it, you had no closure, no answers, and we as humans need to understand what happened and why it happened. It's difficult to let a R go when you think you could have saved it, when you don't feel you or your SO did the very best to save it. However, if he was to tell you he met someone else, then you would have been hurt, but you would have been more accepting of the break, because you would then know he doesn't want you anymore. I wouldn't ever want to be with someone who doesn't want me. They say when someone loves you, there is nothing you can do to keep them away, but when they don't love you, there's nothing you can do to make them stay.
Author mistieyed Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 thanks to all of you for the thoughts. it has been a really tough time the last few weeks, but i am sure i will be fine - it just takes time to mend a broken heart. the lack of closure really does mess with your emotions.
nowhereman82 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Need to Blacklist those URLs MaryBaes is posting and ban their IP. Friggin spammers.
4dviceJunki3 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Everyone hit it right on the dot. He fell off the face of the earth because he either wasn't man enough to tell you in person or even on the phone, or he just simply is that sort of a person that doesn't really have any care in him what so ever. People just don't understand that even in a short period of time, feelings could definitely get involved. He probably thought that you wouldn't care at all so he just left it at that. What you need to do is take advantage of the fact that this wasn't a one or two year relationship. You can get over this very quickly. Use how he ended things with you as your stepping stone. Tell yourself "I cant believe I fell for someone who would do this to me!" I don't mean this in any harsh or negative way but let this be a lesson to maybe takes things a bit more slowly next time so that you don't end up hurting yourself. I seriously date someone for about 6 months to 1 yr before I lend my feelings to them. This may not work for everyone but it helps if things don't go as planned and you have to deal with a broken heart. Let me tell you this, I don't know you at all but I can tell that you DO deserve somebody better because it seems as if you're an honest, loyal, and respectful person so don't let others actions change the way you are. Don't think it's anything you did wrong, because you didn't. You did everything that was right, just maybe falling for him too quickly may have been your mistake but what are we all? Humans! We make them all the time but what we need to learn to do is to learn from them and move on.
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