trubella Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 very early into my R my SO was aware that i am a non-smoker and would prefer to be someone who doesnt smoke as well, rare exceptions were made for the occasional smoker(he fits into that category) I knew he smoked but i didnt know to what extent until recently, he claimed he quit. he wanted me to come with him to the hospital not too long ago, he had a really bad cough (i suspected bronchitis since my ds has had it a few times and i can usually tell.) well the doctor asked him a few questions, one in particular asking if he smoked and he said yes. (you can just imagine the look on my face) after the dr. left the room i kindof just gave him this look and he knew i wasnt exactly thrilled to hear that. ive never been a smoker so i dont know how hard it is for ppl to quit, i dont want to be pushy about it, but the smell of it just turns me off completely. he tells me that he just had his 'last' cigarette today, im not buying it yet. im hoping by just backing off on the issue he will take iniative on his own to stop, he says all the time he wants to stop, and hes considerate when he does smoke by going outside etc. so atleast thats a plus.
Ocean-Blue Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 You sound like my bf. He despised that I smoked. When we got together, I told him that I was a casual smoker (but I quickly became a regular smoker). He backed off at first...but the closer we got (and the more blurry the boundaries), the more insistent he became that I quit. It was (and is) a source of contention in our R. For now, I've quit. It's been months since I had a smoke.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 It's nicotine addiction. It's very hard for people to quit smoking because they get withdrawl symptoms like a drug addict. What you need to do is try to get him to wean off slowly, but not to expect him to stop smoking completely. In order for him to completely quit, he has to be willing to go through severe detox. Be supportive, and try to get him to agree to accomdations that will satisfy both you and him.
Sinister Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I started to smoke after a year ago after having quit for 7 years. I have no business smoking as my life revolves around my fitness interest, not to mention the fact that I watched my father die of COPD.. Anyway, in my recent relationships I've told women I'm an occasional smoker or I keep it in the closet entirely. I've kind of thought If I date a non smoker that'll help me quit. Well I had a talk with this gal I'm interested in and after that talk I have not smoked at all. That was Thursday at lunch.
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