bamagrl75 Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I enjoyed this so I thought I'd share ;-) Good Karma INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE 1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. 2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson. 3. Follow the three R’s Respect for self, Respect for other’s and Responsibility for all your actions. 4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly. 6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship. 7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 8. Spend some time alone everyday. 9. Open arms to change, but don’t let go of your values. 10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. 11. Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time. 12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. 13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past. 14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality. 15. Be gentle with the Earth. 16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. 17. Remember the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. 18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. 19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon
treeluva Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I totally agree with number 17. I can say the first true love of my life, Jeremy... The relationship ended for many reasons, mainly because we were both in Korea when the relationship started and it was time for him to leave. I remember the last night we were together, he told me it was going to be hard because we had both been so good to one another. It took me YEARS to get over him. It was like no one else could meet the level he set for me. (Or that I set for myself) I didn't want to compare other people to him, I just wasn't ready to move on even though I was trying to force myself to do so. But we have had very limited contact since he left that day. The first year was hard... we would talk on the phone about once a week and send letters about once a month. The second year we talked about once every 2 months. I can say that now, 8 years later, we speak once a year. But every conversation we have ever had has never been about us or or relationship. It has to do with what is going on with the other person. Because I do honestly care how he is doing and vice versa. But he is not the first person I call when I have had a bad day. Actually, I have never spoken to him when I was having a bad day. I loved him enough to just let go of the relationship as it was. We will never truly be friends - there is too many unresolved emotional attachments on both sides. But when we do speak, it isn't heartbreaking. It is joyful, in a way. The second man I loved was a bit different. We were broken up but still acted like we were together for months. It took a lot of crying and sleepless nights, but now it is at a point where out of the blue I get an email from him or a random phone call just to see whats going on. I am not delusioned that these emails or calls are meant to "get" back together. They are simply because we honestly care about each other. For both of these men, I want nothing but the best for them both, and I realize that being with me is not the best thing for them. It is the hardest thing to do - to honestly let someone go. But my number one desire in this life towards them is their happiness. And that means that no matter how much I felt I needed them, my needing them and keeping them back for me is selfish. These were not, of course, relationships that were filled with abuse or mistreatment. The timing was just not right. When I think back on all of my relationships were I thought I loved someone, I can honestly say that I probably only truly loved these two. Because I walked away without forcing my needs upon them.
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