LovelyStyle Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 After gaining insight from others who have posted in this forum, I took a huge step and told him about his tendency towards insensitivity and selfishness in regards to me. For months, I have been overwhelmed with frustration that has caused extreme anxiety. I won't bore you with all of the details. In short, he excells in business but is a loser with interpersonal relationships. Emotionally aloof! Tired of the inner anguish, I finally found my voice and I was able to articulate so many things that had eaten away with me. Of course, it turned into a big emotional conversation. I set my boundaries and told him. All of the issues are out on the table and I'm glad I put them there finally.
underpants Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 After gaining insight from others who have posted in this forum, I took a huge step and told him about his tendency towards insensitivity and selfishness in regards to me. For months, I have been overwhelmed with frustration that has caused extreme anxiety. I won't bore you with all of the details. In short, he excells in business but is a loser with interpersonal relationships. Emotionally aloof! Tired of the inner anguish, I finally found my voice and I was able to articulate so many things that had eaten away with me. Of course, it turned into a big emotional conversation. I set my boundaries and told him. All of the issues are out on the table and I'm glad I put them there finally. Good for you. Aloof or not. A relationship is about respect and you should assert your needs and communicate them to your partner. Whether or not he can accomodate them may be another matter. However, it is usually a good thing to discuss issues before they compound into mountains. Perhaps it is a case of him simply not realizing how his behaviors make you feel. It may or may not get better but you did take a big step in acknowledging a problem. Good on you. I hope he steps up.
Author LovelyStyle Posted August 20, 2008 Author Posted August 20, 2008 Thanks for taking the time to reply and for giving me feedback. I do realize that he may be unable or unwilling to treat me in the way I deserve to be treated. If he doesn't "step up", I will step away from him for good.
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