Lumpy Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Ok I am in my lower 30's and divorced, with a child. I met this girl a couple of weeks ago and we've been hanging out since. I feel so happy when I'm around her. There is deffinetley a physical attraction between the two of us. We get along great and have lots of fun when we are around each other. I want to ask her out but keep getting mixed signals from her. At times it seems she is into me and I would like me to make the next move. I've been out of the dating game a long time and just have no idea how to read women anymore, or know what to do in these situations. I'm thinking of backing off a bit and seeing what happens. Any advice?
whichwayisup Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I say, just ask her out and see where it goes. Just curious, but you say you're getting mixed signals, what is it she's doing that's making wonder?
Tomcat33 Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I agree with WWIU just ask her out. If you have been hanging out there must be a vibe on her end otherwise she would not be spending time with you. If you back off she might resent that, why spoil what you have already just go for it. At any rate what is the worst that can happen, she says no? Oh well better to know then to keep hanging out with her an feeling more attracted to her and she does not feel the same way. Do you hang out alone or in a group? Dating doesn't really change much over the years, you are either into each other or you are not but there is only one way to find out.
whichwayisup Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 what is it she's doing that's making you wonder? Sorry, just realized I left out the word you..
LoveLace Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 You know, it is possible that she also feels unsure of your interest in her, as well. So I don't think "backing off" is an answer. It would confuse her. Ask her out!
Author Lumpy Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 Last night we were at her house. We started talking a little and she said she was content. I don't know if I should take that as a good thing or not. Hmmm, maybe I should just man up and ask her to be my girlfriend? We hold hands and kiss everytime we are together. We get a long great, we have the same sense of humor, share alot of the same interests, it just feels really right. Like I said, the physical part is deffinetley there. I just need to quit being such a chicken s**t. I think I am just afraid of getting hurt. To answer Tomcat33 we usually just hang out together, we have a couple of times in a group. (once with her friends, once with mine) Another thing, she spends a lot of time with her friends too, she does try to find alittle time for me when she is done, even if it's just an hour. I guess I really shoudn't expect her to drop plans she's had set for a while to make time for me since we've only known each other a couple of weeks.
LoveLace Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Of course, yes being "content" is a good thing. But nothing about that means she wouldn't want to get more serious with you. Unless she came right out and said, "I'm happy without a boyfriend and I don't want one"...that would be different. Ask her how she'd feel about taking it up a level. But just be understanding if she says that she wants things to go slowly. That's not a bad thing. Sounds like it's going fine so far.
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