JDT34567 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 So like about 3 weeks ago I'm hanging around with my friend (well kinda my firend) and I hear him talk about this new girl he's dating. He dates a lot, so I just sort of brushed it off; didn't really care. Then a couple days later he asks me to go to the pool with him. He said the girls going to be there. (Lets just call her Briana) So I go, and when I first saw her I thought she was the most beautiful I've ever seen in my life! So we are hanging around and stuff. I was really shy around her. But I did talk a little. Then she tells my friend that I'm her favorite friend of his. (Why she did I do not know) And then when I'm getting ready to leave she hugs me. This didn't surprise me too much, because shes hugs a lot of my friend's friends. (And he does the same with her) So I leave the pool. Then a couple days later I decide to text her. Briana and I are talking normally. Then she reveals that my friend has broken up with her. She said he called her a "hoe" because she was hugging a lot of boys at the pool. I text her and tell her that he's crazy, your beautiful, and stuff to cheer her up. Then the conversation goes on and on until I get a call from my friend. He gets upset with me for talking to Briana. I think its none of his buisness now since he broke up with her. So I hang up on him. And I intend to never speak to him again. Then me and her continue talking. I tell her he's upset with me and stuff. Then she asks me if I want to go out with her. I say yes. She says yes too. Then I'm very happy! Then the next day I ask her to go meet me. She says no, but she offers for me to go to a movie with her and her friends. I agree. Then at the movie I see her walk outside. (Probably to take a phone call I think) And I follow. Then she goes and leans on a wall. I lean on it with her. She seems shy. So I softly pull her hand and I put my arm around her. Then I see her walk out again. I follow. She tells me she can't date me anymore. She says because of my friend. I walk outside the theater, saddened. And I start texting her. She tells me its because my friends upset with her, blah blah blah. I text her saying, why does he matter now. We continue texting and she says that I'm going to make her cry and as soon as she goes home she's going to kill herself. Next day, I text her wanting to make sure she's okay. She's says she's fine. I tell her I still love her. She says "aww". I tell her I want to be with her. She replies "I can't". I tell her it'll be our little secret. She tells me she'll think about it. Then I start texting her complimants. I realize I'm not shy of her at all anymore. That I can tell her anything. Now I'm still texting her and she hasn't told me yet. We start talking about aother things. Then I posted this. Please help, John P.S. Feel free to ask any questions.
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Alright where do I start? For one thing you've betrayed your friend. Dating friends exes is a nono. Secondly THIS GIRL ISN'T interested in you you're getting messed about. Simple fact is you're blindsighted by your attraction to her. She has you over a barrel. She likes your attention but that's about it. Walk away. Don't contact her again.
carhill Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 OP, your ages please? Also, define the status of your male friend better. It'll help with some guidelines. He sounds more like a casual friend which I might call an "acquaintance". That issue is separate from the dynamic you're in with his ex(?) GF. My initial take is that you seem like a sincere guy and your male friend and his GF are players, which is not uncommon in younger age groups. Dating is casual, relationships are casual, sex is casual. Very carefree and without serious investment of thought or emotion. It's part of being young, which I presume you are. You might have different thoughts on the process, so find their behavior a bit confusing. My guess is she's either trying to mess with your friendship just to mess with her "ex" or she's collecting an ego feed from your attention. She's immature (not surprising nor an indictment) and not likely interested in you. Try this: Quietly (no manifestos) cut contact and see what happens. Look around you. Lots of other nubile young babes to give your attention to. Think of it this way....it's really OK to not burden her with your attention. She'll be OK, really...
vivrantflo Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 *sigh* here we go.. Then a couple days later I decide to text her. Briana and I are talking normally. Mistake number one. Why the hell are you texting a woman that your friend is dating? Do you not have any respect for your friend? This girl? YOURSELF? He gets upset with me for talking to Briana. I think its none of his buisness now since he broke up with her. So I hang up on him. And I intend to never speak to him again. Of course he's pissed off at you. You're a snake. Whether or not he broke up with her, you were right there to scoop her up as soon as they broke up. That's cold. Then you tell him it's none of his business that you're talking to her, and then hang up on him. I hope HE doesn't speak to YOU again. What nerve. Then she asks me if I want to go out with her. I say yes. She says yes too. Then I'm very happy! She's easier than a game of frogger, and you're selfish. Has it crossed your mind once how your buddy might be feeling about this? Or do you only care about how you feel? Then at the movie I see her walk outside. (Probably to take a phone call I think) And I follow. Then she goes and leans on a wall. I lean on it with her. She seems shy. So I softly pull her hand and I put my arm around her. Then I see her walk out again. I follow. Oh wow dude.. are you her lapdog? If she has to go to the bathroom would you stand in the stall with her, and rub her leg to help her go? Why are you sooo clingy?? Your clinginess, along with her guilt for hurting your friend, helped her make the decision to stop dating you. Not that she's mature or anything.. cause she carries on like this...... She tells me she can't date me anymore. She says because of my friend. I walk outside the theater, saddened. And I start texting her. She tells me its because my friends upset with her, blah blah blah. I text her saying, why does he matter now. We continue texting and she says that I'm going to make her cry and as soon as she goes home she's going to kill herself. I can not stress how cold and self centered you are.. and she's an immature drama queen I tell her I want to be with her. She replies "I can't". I tell her it'll be our little secret. She tells me she'll think about it. LOL Since you've thrown loyalty and morality out the 25th story window, and since she has the maturity of an eleven year, im not at all surprized that you proposed this to her. And will not be suprized if she accepts. You my friend, really need to learn how to respect other people.. especially your friends. Can you not see how bad you hurt your buddy? Can you not see that this post is ALLLLLL about what YOU want? To hell with what your buddy wants, or even what SHE wants, cause she's told you that you two shouldnt talk. But you don't give a flying F Change your ways dude, cause if you keep this crap up, and continue to backstab and throw away friends over women, you're gonna grow old alone.
Walk Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Then a couple days later I decide to text her. Briana and I are talking normally. Then she reveals that my friend has broken up with her. She said he called her a "hoe" because she was hugging a lot of boys at the pool. I text her and tell her that he's crazy, your beautiful, and stuff to cheer her up. Then the conversation goes on and on until I get a call from my friend. So a couple of days later, you decide to text her and the guy who broke up with her found out? How? Not sure if you meant over the course of a couple weeks you continued texting her and eventually your friend found out, or if it was the day you start texting he found out. Because the way it's written, your friend would've had to have been around her to find out you texted her. And if that's the case, then she lied about her status with him.
LionLover Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 She's a "hoe" who want's to "kill herself"? lol, nice story. Goof ball.
Mahatma Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Wow... Just... Quit dating for a while. Sounds like a junior high story to me, so take my advice and stop backstabbing your friends. 99% of your relationships are GOING to end. Don't sacrifice friendships for that.
nopainnogain Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 ever hear of bro's before ho's? or money over Bit*hes
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