maynicholas Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 So my new beau & I seem to be progressing rather quickly. We have been together for a month and already we seem to be settling in (in a good way). He leaves his glasses & contact stuff at my house, we both assume he will end up at my house no matter what at the end of the night (sex not always occurring), wearing our comfy- not- so- cute clothes at the end of the day, he matches his lunch break to mine to we hang out for 1/2 an hour, he comes over just to take a nap, silly pet names abound.... I am totally falling for him. What should I keep my eyes peeled for? Is this strange that we are so comfortable with each other so quickly?
Tony T Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Some people are just right for each other. Don't expect things to always be so comfy. I promise you at some point he will see things about you he's not particularly fond of and you about him. This is normal and mature people are able to accept what they cannot change and move forward with a relationship. Enjoy these good times at the beginning of your relationship. It all may be a good sign...but when people get too comfortable to quickly they start taking each other for granted. A little eggshells aren't so bad. On the other hand, you may be one of the .0001 percent of people in the world who find the exact right partner for them and things go smoothly for the most part right on into old age. Pray a lot!
Touche Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 So my new beau & I seem to be progressing rather quickly. We have been together for a month and already we seem to be settling in (in a good way). He leaves his glasses & contact stuff at my house, we both assume he will end up at my house no matter what at the end of the night (sex not always occurring), wearing our comfy- not- so- cute clothes at the end of the day, he matches his lunch break to mine to we hang out for 1/2 an hour, he comes over just to take a nap, silly pet names abound.... I am totally falling for him. What should I keep my eyes peeled for? Is this strange that we are so comfortable with each other so quickly? No, it's not strange. My H and I were that way too. That was almost 14 years ago now. As far as what you should keep your "eyes peeled for" that's a complex question. There's so much. I'll start with a few things and maybe I'll add more at a later time. How does he treat his family? Particularly his mother? How does he treat his friends? And what about waiters and waitresses? How does he talk about his past girlfriends? (Wife? or wives?) Do you seem to be compatible as far as finances? What about as far as values and morals? Religion? Are you in the same stage in life as far as wanting a committed relationship...or not? What about kids? Are you on the same page there? How about sense of humor and intelligence? Are they compatible? Work ethic? Any of the above can make a break a relationship depending on how compatible you are in these areas. Remember...love is never enough.
Author maynicholas Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 So far we seem to be so alike on all the points above. Some times to a point where it is a little shocking. We were having a discussion the other night and I was opening up more about myself and at the end of the conversation he said that he knew I was talking about myself, but that it almost sounded like I was talking about him- because he could identify with everything.
vonerik012 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 As long as he does not get bored and start to take you for granted... Relationships like that are great at the time, but often times also burn out quickly. Sometimes making the man work a bit is a better option. If you give many men sex every night, they might just be around for the sex and company, and you never really know the extent of his feelings. It is almost like you are married already.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Relationships like that are great at the time, but often times also burn out quickly. Sometimes making the man work a bit is a better option. Exactly what I was thinking. This early on in the relationship, it's pretty much still a free-for-all. But if you still feel this way after the honeymoon period is over, great!
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