copihgtdt Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Hello, I am a young 20 year old college student. I am a virgin and have never had a girlfriend before, but I am generally regarded as fairly nice, smart, and good looking. Since I have no experience at all with girls, my question is: What qualifies as a date? For example, last weekend I met a girl I really dig and so I asked her to play tennis with me. We played Monday night and seemed to really "click", so then I asked her if she would like to go to a movie Thursday night (that is kinda the "social" night at my school"). She said yes and we had a good time at the movie too. And we are going to spend more time together this weekend. For all these events, its just us two and we both have a really good time. So, am I just friends with this girl, or is there the possibility for something more. And if so, how do I make it so that we are not just going to end up as friends?
rockdragon20 Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 This is a good question that should be answered! I am like you, except I have very little experience with guys... I'm not really sure, but it sounds like if it's just you two, this seems like a datey situation.
jadedone Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 Well, you're in bigger danger of the friendzone in this situation. Living on a college campus many girls seem to view this kind of stuff more like just friends. They think eveyone on campus is their friend. You're next time together needs to be on a couch watching a DVD, something private so you can make the 3 moves. 1. Hold her hand 2. The kiss 3. Wet your noodle. If you don't make your move the very next time you hangout, I gurantee some frat boy will get it done within a couple hours of meeting her.
D-Jam Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 So, am I just friends with this girl, or is there the possibility for something more. And if so, how do I make it so that we are not just going to end up as friends? If you're paying for the outings, then it's dating...whether she likes it or not. My suggestion is to watch her vibe. Is she being a little flirty, touchy, into you. If she's curled up on you at a movie or something, try to kiss her. Better she pulls away and says "I thought we were just friends" than to find out later you waited too long. Guys get friendzoned because they get fearful to make a move, plus they happily accept "just friends" when they should more say "I don't want to be just friends" and then walk away. ALSO...does she talk to you about guys she likes? If so...then you've been friendzoned.
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