Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I'm sorry, but he shouldn't go home to his mother either. At least Jilly's honest. If he told every woman he met about his "little" secret, how many of them would want to meet his mother? He should be thanking his lucky stars he found Jilly. Anyway, we'll see his devastated future ex posting a thread about him years from now. You SO get it, girl! So many bi men I know are shocked he wouldn't love being with a woman who accepts him. BUT, as we (over) hashed on the other thread on this topic, he's not comfy enough with his own sexuality, let alone have me be. Oh, this is a funny sidebar. I told him I was happy I didn't go to jail tonight, as I have an early flight. He asked me where I was going, and I said to NYC. He asked why, and I said to see Tom. There was silence. Then he said, "I just choked on my water. Um, tell Tom I said 'hi'". Tom is my best friend we had the three-way with last year... Whatta day I had. lol
Jake Barnes Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I don't know Mr. B. The cop needn't look much farther than the nearest mirror to find someone promiscuous and morally depraved. I doubt he would be all that concerned about Jilly's wild side, as long as she could keep it in the bedroom.Promiscuous people don't trust each other (and for good reason)and thats just a fact of life Maybe he also feels ashamed of what they did
Jake Barnes Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Jilly what happened to you in life that you have so little self respect that you would desire a relationship with a man who enjoys getting f*cked in the ass?
Touche Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Promiscuous people don't trust each other (and for good reason)and thats just a fact of life Maybe he also feels ashamed of what they did And shame is something Jake here is an expert on. So you should really take this seriously, JB.
Jake Barnes Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 And shame is something Jake here is an expert on. So you should really take this seriously, JB.Im not saying Ive been an angel Touche, but you know what....if a woman rejected me based on all the strip clubs and whatnot and because of things Ive done that I should be ashamed of I would only respect her more Im sick of this society where we criticize people for gaining ten pounds or losing hair but celebrate the most perverse and debauched behaviors....its like as long as you look good everything is OK
Touche Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Im not saying Ive been an angel Touche, but you know what....if a woman rejected me based on all the strip clubs and whatnot and because of things Ive done that I should be ashamed of I would only respect her more So you're saying you'd only a respect a woman who wants nothing to do with you? Wow. You must really respect me! :lmao:
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 And shame is something Jake here is an expert on. So you should really take this seriously, JB. Honestly Touche, I have no clue who Jake is. I've never read any of his threads to know his deal. But, it sounds like there's something there! lol Regardless, why should anyone ever feel ashamed for being true to themselves and not hurting anyone in the process? Isn't that the most precious gift in life? Being who we really are?
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 So you're saying you'd only a respect a woman who wants nothing to do with you? Wow. You must really respect me! :lmao: Oh, my. Even if I was still sober, that would have been friggin hysterical.
Touche Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Honestly Touche, I have no clue who Jake is. I've never read any of his threads to know his deal. But, it sounds like there's something there! lol Regardless, why should anyone ever feel ashamed for being true to themselves and not hurting anyone in the process? Isn't that the most precious gift in life? Being who we really are? Well, some of us refer to him as Burnee. Yes, for some of us being who we really are is a gift. For others it's a damn curse, I tell you.
vonerik012 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Honestly Touche, I have no clue who Jake is. I've never read any of his threads to know his deal. But, it sounds like there's something there! lol Regardless, why should anyone ever feel ashamed for being true to themselves and not hurting anyone in the process? Isn't that the most precious gift in life? Being who we really are? Yes, and you should tell every future man you meet that you have sex with gay men before having sex with them.
Jake Barnes Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 So you're saying you'd only a respect a woman who wants nothing to do with you? Wow. You must really respect me! :lmao:If you want nothing to do with me why do you take every oportunity you can to personally insult me If you want nothing to do with me prove it And yeah I dont think a good woman would take me as I am
Touche Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 If you want nothing to do with me why do you take every oportunity you can to personally insult me If you want nothing to do with me prove it And yeah I dont think a good woman would take me as I am Awww, pooor huwt little Burneee. You know I'm teasing you. Just like when you call me a cunt and a kyke, right? No difference. It's all in the fun. Told you that you can dish it out but can't take it. I was kidding! Sheesh!
Virgo1982 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 VIRGO - what do you mean about that? He did make the comment as if felt I had guys asking me out and all over me constantly. I'm not saying he's justified, but it seems that he does have some insecurity issues going on. So, if he thinks men are all over you and you had a ONS with him, it's probably way too much for him to handle. While I appreciate the fact that you two have a very direct communication style, but I feel like he needs to be okay with himself before he is dateable. Yet, he has balls big enough to think he can judge you?
zicke Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Jilly, I know you really like the guy, but he told you how it is with him...men don't throw crap out like "I am not ready for a relationship" or "you're a great girl, but I DON'T SEE MYSELF WITH YOU LONGTERM" and not mean it. Men do tell you how it's going to be with them from the get-go--I know that you know this. He is a good-looking distraction, if you want to get laid, he is sooo there for you, but he is telling you point blank that it is not going to be more than that. It DOES NOT mean that you aren't worth it, it just means that for what ever ****ed up reason he has, he is just not going to be ABLE to make the kinda commitment you want from him. It ain't happening. Seriously, you couldn't pay me enough money to even consider trying this kind of relationship out.
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I'm not saying he's justified, but it seems that he does have some insecurity issues going on. So, if he thinks men are all over you and you had a ONS with him, it's probably way too much for him to handle. While I appreciate the fact that you two have a very direct communication style, but I feel like he needs to be okay with himself before he is dateable. Yet, he has balls big enough to think he can judge you? For someone new to this saga, you really catch on quickly! I really don't know why he thinks I have guys all over me. I mean, I think the same about him, as physically, he is STUNNING. Maybe it's the same thing, as the few times we had been together, it was never in a situation where men were all over me. We had a ONS as a three-way, which is how we met, but we did go out after that. Then he dumped me. We have crappy communication, actually. Whenever I want to get all east coast and just be blunt, he recoils. He always tells me how uncomfortable those conversations are. Agreed he needs to be comfy with him. Im not convinced he will ever get there.
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 Jilly, I know you really like the guy, but he told you how it is with him...men don't throw crap out like "I am not ready for a relationship" or "you're a great girl, but I DON'T SEE MYSELF WITH YOU LONGTERM" and not mean it. Men do tell you how it's going to be with them from the get-go--I know that you know this. He is a good-looking distraction, if you want to get laid, he is sooo there for you, but he is telling you point blank that it is not going to be more than that. It DOES NOT mean that you aren't worth it, it just means that for what ever ****ed up reason he has, he is just not going to be ABLE to make the kinda commitment you want from him. It ain't happening. Seriously, you couldn't pay me enough money to even consider trying this kind of relationship out. No, I know this, Zicke. Its not like Im trying to convince him or force something that he doesnt want. Im not that bad... And this doesn't attack my self-esteem in the slightest. Just bums me out, as I so dig our connection. I loved talking to him tonight - first time in too long.
vonerik012 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Girl meets boy .. Girl decides to sleep with boy AND his friend on the first date What are the chances boy wants a relationship with this girl?
zicke Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I know Jilly, but seriously..He might be a great looking guy, but God, the whole thought of life with this guy full time exhausts me. And I don't even know him! There is a guy out there who is sexually open, and good looking, and smart, and all that, who isn't going to bring all of this drama right away. Go find him. And report back of course. As the southerners love to say "this dawg cain't hunt!"
zicke Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Girl meets boy .. Girl decides to sleep with boy AND his friend on the first date What are the chances boy wants a relationship with this girl? Oh as if! The guy took his friend into bed on their first meeting, she should run from him! God V--you really do not like women at all!
vonerik012 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 LOL Trust me, I am not thinking he is a good guy to date.. And yes, she should run from him... Sleeping with gay men is not that smart..
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I know Jilly, but seriously..He might be a great looking guy, but God, the whole thought of life with this guy full time exhausts me. And I don't even know him! There is a guy out there who is sexually open, and good looking, and smart, and all that, who isn't going to bring all of this drama right away. Go find him. And report back of course. As the southerners love to say "this dawg cain't hunt!" LOL. I know, hon. He's stunning, but totally one hot mess. No other way to describe him. And it was my friend we had sex with, Z. Same friend I am off to visit in NYC tomorrow. I cant say Im going to be an angel, so expect a story that will rattle some folks daintier sensibilities. Hey, it's how I roll...
Walk Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I'm still tryin to figure out what happened to make a hair stylist go off on you to the degree this one did? What did she call the cops on you for? Walking out without paying?
Virgo1982 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 For someone new to this saga, you really catch on quickly! I really don't know why he thinks I have guys all over me. I mean, I think the same about him, as physically, he is STUNNING. Maybe it's the same thing, as the few times we had been together, it was never in a situation where men were all over me. We had a ONS as a three-way, which is how we met, but we did go out after that. Then he dumped me. We have crappy communication, actually. Whenever I want to get all east coast and just be blunt, he recoils. He always tells me how uncomfortable those conversations are. Agreed he needs to be comfy with him. Im not convinced he will ever get there. Yes, east coast communication is like nextel walkie talkie all day long, lol. I do think your communication is better than most-considering the circumstances. Most guys would have avoided your phone calls. He gets a gold star for telling you the truth and a ruler slap for not looking in the mirror.
Jake Barnes Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 And it was my friend we had sex with, Z. Same friend I am off to visit in NYC tomorrow. I cant say Im going to be an angel, so expect a story that will rattle some folks daintier sensibilities. Hey, it's how I roll... Well if thats how you roll then just accept the consequences. Most guys dont want relationships with women like you because they dont feel they can trust them to be monogamous Like I said Ive done a lot of bad things and made selfish and destructive choices and Im living with the consequences and I have to accept responsibilty for that instead of whining about not getting a good woman in my life
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I'm still tryin to figure out what happened to make a hair stylist go off on you to the degree this one did? What did she call the cops on you for? Walking out without paying? LOL! Thank you! It was horrible. I went in for a single process. She dyed it the WRONG color. So, I had to have her redo it. It STILL didn't match. Then, she screwed up the blow dry. Pfft. So, before I left, I was telling her I wasnt happy. She went OFF. Saying there was something wrong with my hair, that it looked like crap when I came in (oh no she didn't!). She was insane. So, I left at this point. And no - I did not pay. I would have, had she not gone off on me. Then, she followed me outside, still yelling - saying that all her other customers had to wait while she fixed my hair (my problem how?), so they continued to wait while she followed me all over the parking lot yelling at me and calling me a thief. Douche.
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