samuelrrr Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 wow. this is a great site, just came across it. you guys seem really supportive, would you mind giving some advice for me regarding my situation (i'm a guy)? anyhoo, here it is. basically have gone out with this woman (same age, actually shares my exact birthday) once after a few weeks of knowing each other from afar via the same friends. we've talked, texted, emailed several times too, but always it's been me doing the initiating. she is receptive when we talk, seems to enjoy the conversation, and the date went well (i think). i dont think i'm coming on too strong, but whenever i sent a funny joke by text or email, I never get any acknowledgment whatsoever. granted i don't ask anything in the messages, and technically she's not obligated to write anything back, but shouldn't she at least reciprocate something if she's intersted?? i'm pretty sure she finds them funny, becuase she laughs whenever we talk and I joke around, and my humor doesn't really change, but I guess I can't be for sure. why is she doing this in your opinion? to what extent are women taught to limit contact with the the guy who is pursuing him, and not respond unless its necessary? is there a rule of thumb to ignore the guy whenever noihting specifically is being asked, then be more receptive the next time (to kind of show interest and then pull back -- as part of the game)?
JoeNewbie Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 People use e-mail in various ways. Some respond systematically, others don't. I strongly suggest you keep e-mail interactions to a minimum in order to avoid such misunderstandings. Ask her out again and you will see.
Author samuelrrr Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 wow. this is a great site, just came across it. you guys seem really supportive, would you mind giving some advice for me regarding my situation (i'm a guy)? anyhoo, here it is. basically have gone out with this woman (same age, actually shares my exact birthday) once after a few weeks of knowing each other from afar via the same friends. we've talked, texted, emailed several times too, but always it's been me doing the initiating. she is receptive when we talk, seems to enjoy the conversation, and the date went well (i think). i dont think i'm coming on too strong, but whenever i sent a funny joke by text or email, I never get any acknowledgment whatsoever. granted i don't ask anything in the messages, and technically she's not obligated to write anything back, but shouldn't she at least reciprocate something if she's intersted?? i'm pretty sure she finds them funny, becuase she laughs whenever we talk and I joke around, and my humor doesn't really change, but I guess I can't be for sure. why is she doing this in your opinion? to what extent are women taught to limit contact with the the guy who is pursuing him, and not respond unless its necessary? is there a rule of thumb to ignore the guy whenever noihting specifically is being asked, then be more receptive the next time (to kind of show interest and then pull back -- as part of the game)?
Author samuelrrr Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 Hey all. Could anyone chime in and help this guy out haha?
Mahatma Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I would suggest toning down the texting and leaving texts for setting up dates until you both are comfortable with eachother. The problem with texting and emails, is that you cannot show very much emotion or personality so a lot of things tend to get lost in translation. Once a person gets to know you, then you can text more and, since they know your personality, they will be able to get exactly what you meaning to say. Don't text as often, and also ask her out again.
Author samuelrrr Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 why is she doing this in your opinion? to what extent are women taught to limit contact with the the guy who is pursuing him, and not respond unless its necessary? is there a rule of thumb to ignore the guy whenever noihting specifically is being asked, then be more receptive the next time (to kind of show interest and then pull back -- as part of the game)?
Mako482 Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 wow. this is a great site, just came across it. you guys seem really supportive, would you mind giving some advice for me regarding my situation (i'm a guy)? anyhoo, here it is. basically have gone out with this woman (same age, actually shares my exact birthday) once after a few weeks of knowing each other from afar via the same friends. we've talked, texted, emailed several times too, but always it's been me doing the initiating. she is receptive when we talk, seems to enjoy the conversation, and the date went well (i think). i dont think i'm coming on too strong, but whenever i sent a funny joke by text or email, I never get any acknowledgment whatsoever. granted i don't ask anything in the messages, and technically she's not obligated to write anything back, but shouldn't she at least reciprocate something if she's intersted?? i'm pretty sure she finds them funny, becuase she laughs whenever we talk and I joke around, and my humor doesn't really change, but I guess I can't be for sure. why is she doing this in your opinion? to what extent are women taught to limit contact with the the guy who is pursuing him, and not respond unless its necessary? is there a rule of thumb to ignore the guy whenever noihting specifically is being asked, then be more receptive the next time (to kind of show interest and then pull back -- as part of the game)? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t161423/ Might want to check this thread out, just in case...
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