CarrieT Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 I broke up with BF a month ago. Initially, he was going to be the one to move out but after a week or two of fighting, I decided I would be the one to move. However, the apartment I got won't be ready until next Tuesday, the 19th. Immediately (three weeks ago), I inflated the air mattress and ensconced myself in our second room while started packing and moving on with my life. We had to deal with other as roomies and are still working through separating things (he hasn't taken me off the bank accounts despite my continual pleading -- one of them is overdrawn). I come home from a really long hike yesterday and am exhausted. He's hired a new "secretary" (that was what I was to him as well) sitting there going over paperwork stuff. I guess she is some high-school friend whom he has always been attracted to but insisted she would never go for him. Being as tired as I was, I took a sleeping pill last night, hoping to get a full 8-hours. However, I woke around midnight to use the bathroom and en route, realized they were in bed together. I am obviously upset that he couldn't wait four more days for me to be gone before he started sleeping with someone else. Now I am sitting here in my back room and the two of them are giggling and working and whatever. I have no where to go for these four days and can't afford a hotel room (and don't want to leave my cat anyway). How do I deal with these two obviously flaunting this in my face? I was already heartbroken by the end of the relationship but didn't realize I could still hurt this badly.
Moose Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Bring over two guys and have wild sex in your room.... But I'll tell you to just, "act" like you are....
Author CarrieT Posted August 15, 2008 Author Posted August 15, 2008 Bring over two guys and have wild sex in your room.... But I'll tell you to just, "act" like you are.... Easier said than done - I live in San Francisco and don't KNOW any guys who aren't gay!
Moose Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Easier said than done - I live in San Francisco and don't KNOW any guys who aren't gay!Even a gay man would participate in making another person jealous, (or should I say, ESPECIALLY a gay man?).....you don't actually have to have sex with them!
CaliGuy Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Carrie, he's a jerk. That's what you have to remind yourself. Look how insensitive he is and be THANKFUL TO GOD that you are free of this man. I'm sorry you are going through this, but you'll look back on this guy one day and say "What the heck was I thinking?!"
Whitefox123 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 I'd say just act like what he is doing doesnt phase you. I know it will be hard, but DO NOT stoop to his level! Do you have a good friend or a family member you can stay with? Also with your bank accounts, please be careful with the account that is overdrawn. I work for a bank and I see situations often like this...get it back to the positive as soon as possible because otherwise the bank might close the account out and put you BOTH into collections. And actually the banks usually request that the account be closed instead of the names being taken off! Good luck with everything! I hope you can find a way to get through the weekend!
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