luckyinlove Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 ive had a post or two around here, so to sum things up, my boyfriend (well, sort of...) of 2 years and i have been arguing a lot. we both have a lot of issues that need to be discussed and sorted out. the only problem is that he refuses to discuss things, and just takes time away from me to clear his head. this way, nothing gets figured out, and no problems get tackled. we got into an argument a little over a week ago, i said some hurtful things to him, and after giving me the cold shoulder for a week he broke up with me. it's been two days and i just received a phone call from him (it's 3am here, mind you) which i didn't answer, followed by a text from him saying, "i still love you so much, why did you have to say such hurtful things?" he still hasn't even told any of his friends or family that we've split. i replied apologizing once again, and telling him it was immature of me to take that approach. now, this has been a TERRIBLY painful couple of days seeing as though i still love him dearly. my question is, would it be a bad idea to take him back if the opportunity arises(which im not even sure of yet)? would i be setting myself up for more heartbreak? if i did, which i'd love to, he would definitely need to know that we have to work through some things first. insight?
Lishy Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Can you give some idea of your past problems and how he tackled them?
Mako482 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Without knowing a whole lot my first impression is to say give it one more shot. Sometimes this is the wake up call a relationship needs.
Lishy Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Hmmmmmmmm this is why I ask for more details How he deals with conflict in the past is what we need to know
D-Jam Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 People make mistake and break up rashly. If you two love one another then try again. However, I sincerely think you both should then sit down and hash everything out like adults. Face the problems and fix them, as opposed to arguing. Too many times couples make the arguments into a battle of wills and worry more about winning the argument as opposed to fixing the problem.
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