df273 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 i'm 21. i just recently had a door slammed on my face. (my gf of 3.5yrs broke up with me 2.5mouths ago. she moved on to someone else.) anyways, last night i ran into a girl from high school. one that i had a hugh crush on for a couple years, i guess i still do. we never talked much at all, but she remembered my name somehow, which i was amazed by. it has probably been like 4yrs or so. she just broke up with her BF 1-2 weeks ago. he dumped her on her bday. i want to let her relax from that, but don't want to miss the oppurtunity to get to know her and possibly presue a relationship. normally, i can talk to anyone, anywhere, without thinking twice. i can plant seeds with any and many ladies without worring about anything. sometimes the seeds grow and i've made some good friends and met some people, sometimes the seeds die and i never see that person again. i guess it is the fact that i really want something to come from this, so i can not pursue it as i normally would. i second guess everything that comes to mind. anyways, when i left the bar last night, she was in the back working, trying to get out of there. she said they were going to a bar across town. me and a few buds were being kicked out for closing, but i gave my number to a waitress to give to her. i have no doubt that she got the number, but i normally like to exchange numbers in person, and feel it was kinda weird/pathetic how i did it last night. i owe the bartender a ****load of money, cuz he loaded me on free drinks.(this is the reason i did not go to the other bar and meet up with her after work. i was really feeling the 4 free beers, and 1 whiskey plus the 3 beers i paid for) lol, i was broke, but when i saw her, he noticed something changed in me, and drowned me in drinks so i would stay. i am going back tomarrow night to take care of the bartender. it might be busy, so i dont know if i will see her. that was my first time in that bar since the new ownership. it's not much of a popular place, but the guys there are cool and i had some interesting convos, so i will be returning. how often is too often to be at a specific bar? any ideas on a decent next move, or should i consider that my "seed" and see if it grows? remember, i like this gurl and want it to become something, but also dont want to miss this oppurtunity. i also had a friend in high school that dated her. i havnt told him i saw her. should i consider his feelings on the situation, and possibly get some advice?
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 I can't think of a better way to start than a smile, a hello and a hug. Throw away your 'game' and go into it genuinely. She is probably not ready for dating right now, and even if she does date - she may well be on the rebound. Let her heart heal first before you start planting any seeds. It won't hurt to be on the perimeter but now is not the time to put yourself on her center stage, so to speak.
A.G.Doren Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 I can't think of a better way to start than a smile, a hello and a hug. Throw away your 'game' and go into it genuinely. She is probably not ready for dating right now, and even if she does date - she may well be on the rebound. Let her heart heal first before you start planting any seeds. It won't hurt to be on the perimeter but now is not the time to put yourself on her center stage, so to speak. That's what I would reccomend.
Recommended Posts