Mending1985 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Well it was my fifth day of NC yesterday, and I called him last night. We talked for about 10 minutes, it was ok, he wasn't unhappy to hear from me, but he didn't sound over the moon either. It was a bit uncomfortable, neither of us really knew what to say. I ended the call, and he said he'd talk to me soon. Then this morning I had this bright idea that if I can get through the therapy and off the medication etc. we could get back together because I'd be back to the girl he fell in love with - confident, happy, funny etc. So I sent him a text asking him to meet with me after work. And he said no, he didn't think it was a good idea. SO instead of leaving it and saying ok, I sent him another text outlining my reasons for wanting to see him - saying I know I have a lot of work to do but I still care about him and I know he cares about me, and that I believe we will end up together etc. and I apologised for my past behaviour, and assured him that I will be more respectful from now on. Getting no response, I sent ANOTHER text saying "What are your thoughts on that?" Half an hour later and no response (of course). How could I be so stupid?? He doesn't want me back, he doesn't think we're meant to be together. And even if he did, this isn't going to encourage it, it'll just push him further away. I don't know what to do anymore!!!!
nowhereman82 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Hop back on the wagon and continue NC. Just because you slipped doesn't mean not to start again. You saw the consequences of breaking NC. Keep that in mind next time yu are tempted to contact him. Been 2 months for me and I keep slipping. All of us slip...it gets easier though! Hang in there
foxh1234 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Well it was my fifth day of NC yesterday, and I called him last night. We talked for about 10 minutes, it was ok, he wasn't unhappy to hear from me, but he didn't sound over the moon either. It was a bit uncomfortable, neither of us really knew what to say. I ended the call, and he said he'd talk to me soon. Then this morning I had this bright idea that if I can get through the therapy and off the medication etc. we could get back together because I'd be back to the girl he fell in love with - confident, happy, funny etc. So I sent him a text asking him to meet with me after work. And he said no, he didn't think it was a good idea. SO instead of leaving it and saying ok, I sent him another text outlining my reasons for wanting to see him - saying I know I have a lot of work to do but I still care about him and I know he cares about me, and that I believe we will end up together etc. and I apologised for my past behaviour, and assured him that I will be more respectful from now on. Getting no response, I sent ANOTHER text saying "What are your thoughts on that?" Half an hour later and no response (of course). How could I be so stupid?? He doesn't want me back, he doesn't think we're meant to be together. And even if he did, this isn't going to encourage it, it'll just push him further away. I don't know what to do anymore!!!! OK, calm down and take a deep breath. Now, I have done exactly what you have done. You know what I did........forgot about it and moved forward. Go back on complete NC and don't let this et back hurt you. We have all slipped up and made contact and have ended up right where you are now. Drop off the face of the earth, disappear, vanish, and find yourself. He is beyond your control, so don't worry about what he is doing or thinks. Work on yourself for YOU, not for him. Good Luck, you can do this.
Author Mending1985 Posted August 15, 2008 Author Posted August 15, 2008 Thanks guys :-) I know he's going to respond eventually, and I'm tempted to send him another message saying ignore what I sent you, and leave it be, but I know if I do that I'll want a response even more. I just want him to tell me NEVER AGAIN, instead of I don't know, maybe in time, lets be friends and see how it goes. Grrrr!
df273 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 continue NC. if he calls or text you, DO NOT respond. (unless it is something drastic) NC will put you and him back in the right mind. if he wants things to go back to how they were, the only way he will realize it is when he misses you. give him more then enough time to miss and want you back. sometimes it takes longer then others, but from what i've learned, they will almost always strike up some sort of contact after missing you and realizing what was lost. stay strong.
Author Mending1985 Posted August 15, 2008 Author Posted August 15, 2008 Does anyone have any ideas of things to do to keep busy while doing NC?
selena_cat Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 first of all delete his contact ifo, so you wont txt hi dont email,nothing, if you have to let your friends keep your cell for a bit so you wont keep txting him, do it. i read in that Its breakup because its Broken how this woman had her neighbor keep her phone so she wont call her ex,al these drastic things, do it. Think about it,he brpke up, he should make contact why should you chase, 'while youre at it read Men Who Love B's,i swearr mmy mouth fell on the floow b/c the author pointed out every mistake that i did in the book! go to great concerts too, and dancing!
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