nopainnogain Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlematch.aspx?cp-documentid=8424972>1=32023 Read this and let me know what you all think . I am curious, are these good excuses lol. my thoughts- reason # 1- BS reason# 2- BS reason# 3- BS reason# 4- BS reason#5-BS reason#6-BS reason#7-BS reason#8-BS
sao2 Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Cheating is BS and really there are only three reasons that people cheat, 1) because they lack either the integrity/courage to break it off with someone whom they don't want to be with. 2) because they lack the integrity/courage to commit themselves fully to someone who they do want to be with. 3) Because they lack the integrity/courage to tell someone they may even think they love that they are not interested in monogamy. In any case it boils down to a lack of integrity and courage.
bayouboi Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Sounds about right...I just have to get myself mentally to a place where I don't assume that all women are selfish whores like these.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 15, 2008 Author Posted August 15, 2008 http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlematch.aspx?cp-documentid=8424973>1=32023
4dviceJunki3 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Ah man all those reasons are complete crap. I mean I guess I understand if you're trying to break it off with someone who is going through a hard time and you don't want to add on to the pain but I mean even at that point, the person is going to deal with the situation and then finally when he or she feels better, you're going to DUMP a whole another situation on top of him/her and put them through the same misery. Might as well tell the person and add on top of the pile and have the person cope with both situations at the same time; it will only make him/her stronger. The one that really made my nerves itch is the last one where the women had a boyfriend who was a bad kisser. SO WHAT?!? Maybe you can kiss him more often and teach him how to do it if it's that important to you. That's just a lame excuse to end the relationship; you're better off just saying "Hey I don't want to be with you because we just don't have this chemstry between us and I really don't see us going anywhere so I don't want to prolong this dead-end relationship and end up hurting you or myself at the end." That would be a lot easier than to break it off for a freaking bad kiss; You know what the problem is around the world today? It's the fact that people have high expectations for EVERYTHING. The more you expect and the less you encounter from those expectations, the more frustrated you get and so you think that the world owes you something for it. People need to NOT lower their standards but need to UNDERSTAND what standards are and what to really look for in a person. HALF the world today doesn't even know what they want for themselves and they get involved in what they THINK is a serious relationship but only to find out later on in the relationship that it's not what they're looking for; what happens after that, hearts get broken and people turn sour because of bad experiences. This isn't directed to anyone here on the forums. Matter of a fact, I believe that everyone who turns to stuff like this (forums, support lines, etc.) has a clear understanding of what they want but aren't given the opportunity or the chance to present those understandings.
Author nopainnogain Posted August 26, 2008 Author Posted August 26, 2008 i just read this. Thats well written advice junkie. i agree
Angel1111 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 I can only relate to the one about cheating to get back at the spouse who cheated. After my ex cheated, I wanted nothing more than to hit him right back with the same thing. Then along came a guy that my ex was friends with and we totally hit it off. I've never seen my ex so jealous, just over me and this guy talking. So after he ranted about it to me one night, I said, "Great, now you've gotten a small taste of how it feels." The only real reason I didn't cheat to get back at him was because it would've made me feel bad about myself. It had absolutely nothing to do with my respect for him or our marriage. He destroyed that. So, yeah, I can fully understand the rationale to get back at someone.
CaliGuy Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 Cheating is BS and really there are only three reasons that people cheat, 1) because they lack either the integrity/courage to break it off with someone whom they don't want to be with. 2) because they lack the integrity/courage to commit themselves fully to someone who they do want to be with. 3) Because they lack the integrity/courage to tell someone they may even think they love that they are not interested in monogamy. In any case it boils down to a lack of integrity and courage. I would add they are weak willed and impulsive. If someone can cheat on you, they don't really love you anymore.
Mending1985 Posted August 26, 2008 Posted August 26, 2008 That is all total bull! I'm a woman AND I have cheated before and you know what - there are NO REASONS! At the time, I'm sure I justified it to myself, but no way are there any good enough excuses to cheat. If you cheat, you f*cked up, it's as simple as that.
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