dreamy1945 Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 details in the affair compared to those who know very little?
treeluva Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 When my exhusband cheated on me and I found out, I wanted to know every single detail. I asked questions that I really didn't want to know the answers to, but at the same time, I did want to know. I asked him. I asked her. I asked them with both of them together. I asked each of them seperately. I asked people around who KNEW what was going on. I kept getting answers I thought I wanted, and all it did was make me angrier, more upset, and honestly, probably scarred me for life. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't ask a single question. I would just throw him out and never look back. All I needed to know was that he didn't honor his commitment. He didn't honor his promise. Even if we had problems and I can say that I didn't help the situation (the affair) from occurring... he still didn't keep his end of the bargain. And that's all I needed to know.
v33 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 At the time you find out about the cheating you think you want to know, need to know even. But really, it just hurts more. Every little detail you will play over in your mind once you have the information. It's really more than you can take. Trust me, you don't need to ask. Every little thing they used to do with you they did with the new person. Best to just get them out of your life as soon as you find out. You can't make them feel bad about it, you can't make them care.... if they did then they wouldn't have cheated in the first place.
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