hellokitty55 Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 My ex bf broke up with me after almost 5 years together 2 weeks ago. He's interested in this high school girl; (we're in college together). They arent official but he's interested in her, she likes him, they hang out. He wants to stay friends and says he still loves me & that I will always be apart of his family, he cares about me blah blah blah. He wants to hangout with her and sometimes with me. I told him I cant, its too hard, and im not going to be your 2nd choice. Everyones saying its not going to work between them. From another post: "It seems that the more often a dumpee wins back the dumper is by exiting the picture completely while the dumper pursues this new person. I think it gives the dumper a chance to realize that the "sure thing" they had is gone and that once the excitement of the new person wears off, they miss their ex." That's why I started NC and its day 6. I'll give him space, try to heal myself, and without me as a crutch/comfort, he can realize that she cant give him what I did. Once the newness/excitement of this new girl wears off he'll be sorry ( i hope)... Anyway, my plan is to continue to do NC for a month and then when the month is up, school will begin and I will have no choice but to see him here and there but I'm going to be a different girl than before (I wont seem desperate/needy/jealous). Im going to make small talk, be friendly, act like Im happy and strong and I will not ask any questions about his new fling. Is it ok to go NC for a month and then do LC but keep it very casual while he's with her?? I dont want this to backfire and him feel like im his safety net which will probably encourage him to continue with this girl.
saams Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 yes you should go nc with him for awhile. but i really think you should start considering other options, such as dating other people and forget about this one, dont hang on to hope that he'll be back, well.. you can hope for the best but expect the worst.. and yes when you start school and if nothing have changed then low / no contact still..
Recommended Posts