CailinPig Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Hi all, My ex dumped me in march and then 5 days later, strated going out with a friend of his. This new gf has been battling with him for months to stop contacting me because she didn't want me in his life. She eventually said 'pick me or her' and he picked me. But not as a gf, as a friend. So he broke up with her. I am over him. I am very very very happily single! I love the freedom and independance it gives me. I feel great! He is my good friend, but nothing more. I do not want to be with him. I want to be single. I'm starting a new college course in 2 weeks and will be moving away, and I worry whether he'll be ok or not, but I know I'll be fine. Guys and girls going through a break up, don't worry! You will get over him/her and you will move on. In my case, I'm now slightly worried he wants to get back with me but I've told him I won't be getting into a relationship with him. My reason? If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I'm happy: why would I possibly ruin that? The only thing that would make me happier is if he was also happy, but I know he isn't. I am myself again. It took almost 5 months! But I feel great! And I love my ex for the person he is, and I accept the mistakes he has made but I hope we both learn from all the ****ty things we've done and said. No doubt I'll be back to loveshack again with another problem because life never stops changing!! How is everyone else doing?
sultry33 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 hi im doing well thanks.. did break nc but you know i feel ok about it think we may meet in couple weeks.. busy now anyway so its good.. im like you i think in that i actually like the single life.. can do what i want when i want;) miss cuddles and stuff but im ok glad your doing well and you have alot to look forward too hugs to you x
Billie63 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 What a wonderful post and what a great person you sound! And that's why he chose you! Cos you were getting on with your life with dignity while his new girl chose to focus on you rather than their relationship. Yes, sometimes they do come back, but very often you simply don't want them in that way. good luck in everything - yes no doubt you'll have more heartbreaks, but the first one is always the hardest. After the first one, it gets easier because you know that eventually you'll get over it.
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