signedin2008 Posted August 25, 2008 Posted August 25, 2008 i'm sorry for this latest turn of events that has your wife in such a chaotic position. i'm unclear as to why she would have addressed an email to the OMW or her H... if it was intended to only be read by you - wouldn't she have put your email address in the info to be sent? it seems your daughter thought she was helping out - but i can't understand such a big blunder... how did your W have that email address to begin with? All that are irrelevant. What's important now is that he has a very hurt betrayed wife and a marriage that might not survive leaving his daughter with a broken home.
Darth Vader Posted September 9, 2008 Posted September 9, 2008 I have to find a way to make amends to my daughter. You can't! The damage is forever done! Take it from someone who knows! I have a feeling that your daughter read the e-mail and knew exactly what she was doing, let alone what you were doing! Unfortunately your wife got it when you should have! BTW, you need to have your ASS kicked by this OW's husband! And rightfully so, there's no reason or excuse to screw another man's wife, NONE! Your wife would do well to leave you.
Author Brionikos Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 You can't! The damage is forever done! Take it from someone who knows! I have a feeling that your daughter read the e-mail and knew exactly what she was doing, let alone what you were doing! Unfortunately your wife got it when you should have! BTW, you need to have your ASS kicked by this OW's husband! And rightfully so, there's no reason or excuse to screw another man's wife, NONE! Your wife would do well to leave you. Oh, my daughter most certainly knew what she was doing, there is no disputing that, but I am willing to bet dollars to doughnuts that she and I will be okay. She has first hand knowledge of the dynamic between my wife and I, she knows what went on, what is going on, and what goes on. I am not about to layout the problems my wife and I had prior to (and during) my affair because I am not looking to justify in anyone's eyes what I have done. But my daughter does know these problems. She knows what I did is wrong, but she also isn't surprised I did it. (Family Counseling sure brings things out of her mouth I thought she never knew nor had insight to.) As far as my wife doing well to leave me (kick me out), that is certainly well within her right, but we are going to deal with all the issues before something like that occurs. There will be closure. There will be a modicum of understanding. Regardless of our future, together or apart, we have a daughter together and will always be part of each other's lives in some manner. So we will deal with the issues before we make rash and hasty decisions. I am not opposed to, nor fearful of, OMW's H coming to kick my ass. But I am not going to seek him out, that would almost be like taunting him. He knows how to find me, how to get a hold of me, and if he wants to meet me for whatever reason - whether to talk or a donnybrook - I would oblige him. If that is what is required for him to move on, then so be it. (I would dispute your claims as for there being no reason to have sex with a another man's wife. There are always reasons... there just are no moral or justifible ones.) All in all, I feel a lot better about the direction of my life than I did just a few weeks ago... B
Darth Vader Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 But I am not going to seek him out, that would almost be like taunting him. That is very wise that you don't, you may live longer! So we will deal with the issues before we make rash and hasty decisions. Too bad that wasn't done before the cheating, and destruction of two families!
Author Brionikos Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 That is very wise that you don't, you may live longer! For the most part, I'm a pretty smart guy... 'though my judgment can be lacking. Too bad that wasn't done before the cheating, and destruction of two families! No, only one family was affected, and that was mine. A mutual friend of OMW and mine has kept me updated on her situation - her husband has decided to bury his head in the sand and believe that she and I "were just friends" ignoring everything. Good for her, I suppose... B
bentnotbroken Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 For the most part, I'm a pretty smart guy... 'though my judgment can be lacking. No, only one family was affected, and that was mine. A mutual friend of OMW and mine has kept me updated on her situation - her husband has decided to bury his head in the sand and believe that she and I "were just friends" ignoring everything. Good for her, I suppose... B Her family was affected. Even if he buries his head this time, it is still in the back of his mind. He will never see her the same. There relationship will change, as it should.
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