badbrit Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Positive Stories thread Hi, this board drips with negativity and it is no wonder people doubt second chances ever come about and if they do they must always fail. Well that is not reality as millions of couples are together, happily, having been broken up at some point, sometimes broken up for a long time and even having married other people in between. So this thread is for positve minds, to get some hope and belief going which is needed. Have a think of people you know, think about couples. I bet you all know of at least one couple who have a time in their history when they appeared to have reached the end of the road. Do not go posting opinions on why second chances do not work, or that when you are done you are done, no chit chatting and stuff. Lets just have post after post of nice positive stories. Lets make a positive record that people can come to for hope in their darkest hour. If you are going to post anything other than a nice positive story you know about, do not bother. Make every post count. Lets get some hope and vibes going people
Simon Leon Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 I have a very close friend that I work with whose marrage almost disolved when his wife had an affair into the first couple of years of their relationship. He tried desperatly to get the marrage back on track with no initial success. Eventually...he got to the end of he emotional rope and let her know that he would agree to her seperation request. She then started coming to her senses and they have since had a very strong marrage. That happened about 10 yrs ago. It took about 2yrs to get the trust and love back to the pre affair level. He said they are now happier then ever. What is very important to remember is that these things take time to play out. Not days or weeks.....but typically months. I read somewhere that it can take up to 1mth for each yr of marrage to come to grips with your mistakes and make the necessary changes. That could be why many reconciliations don't happen until almost the divorce date. It takes a lot of time to reflect and realize that some things can be worked out if you really want it to happen.
Owl Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Just over four years ago, my wife was all set to fly away and live with an OM she'd never met in person. She was convinced they were "soulmates"...it was "meant to be". She ended up not leaving...but was still convinced that our marriage was over regardless. We went to MC, but she was also wanting a trial seperation. We did an "in home seperation" for about three weeks...and she was looking at apartments, looking for a job, etc... Finally, she came to me and told me she was going to take an apartment with a year long lease. I asked her if she truly intended a year long trial seperation...she said that she did. The next day, I spoke with a lawyer, and got information on divorce for our state. That night, I informed her that I was not willing to "wait" on her that long...if she was that insistent that she needed that space, then we should file and be DONE with it. She realized I was serious, and that I'd reached the end of my patience with the whole thing. That was the first night she realized she was going to lose me out of her life forever. That was actually the first night of our reconciliation. As I said...its over four years later. We have a GREAT marriage now. We laughed last night about how "in synch" we are at the moment. We're coming up on our 21st anniversary later this year.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 We have a friend who found out a couple of years ago years ago his wife was having an affair. He's in professional sports and travels alot. He thought that contributed to the affair. He confronted her with it and exposed to the necessary people. She wanted to mend their marriage and so did he. They started going to counseling and got back in church. Their marriage is incredible now and he says that they never could have gotten where they are now as far as intimacy goes if it wouldn't have been for the affair. He hates that it had to happen that way but it did and he's closer to God now and his wife because of it. They have been married about nine years now.
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