Positive Stories thread

[badbrit]

Positive Stories thread

Hi, this board drips with negativity and it is no wonder people doubt second chances ever come about and if they do they must always fail.

 

Well that is not reality as millions of couples are together, happily, having been broken up at some point, sometimes broken up for a long time and even having married other people in between.

 

So this thread is for positve minds, to get some hope and belief going which is needed.

 

Have a think of people you know, think about couples. I bet you all know of at least one couple who have a time in their history when they appeared to have reached the end of the road.

 

Do not go posting opinions on why second chances do not work, or that when you are done you are done, no chit chatting and stuff.

 

Lets just have post after post of nice positive stories. Lets make a positive record that people can come to for hope in their darkest hour.

 

If you are going to post anything other than a nice positive story you know about, do not bother. Make every post count.

 

Lets get some hope and vibes going people

[Billie63]

A friend of mine had an awful break up about 6 years ago.

 

She'd been with her man for 15 years. She was 39, he was 33 when he told her he wanted to break up. She'd discovered he'd been having an affair with a woman at work.

 

He moved out, and lived with this woman while my friend was left devastated. What was so sad was that she couldn't have children and she would have made a wonderful mother and she feared he'd go off and have kids with this woman. Although part of her wanted him to be happy and she would have understood. However that was never the reason he left. She must have dropped about 40 pounds in 6 weeks.

 

Eight months later, when she was getting better about the split, he came back crying, asking her to take him back. Not because this other woman had ended it, but because he realised he was still in love with my friend.

 

She said yes, they got married a year later and are happier than they've ever been.

 

So it does happen.

[Treasa]

My boyfriend broke up with me a few times, a couple of times for stupid reasons early on in the relationship (which he admitted to), and once for a very good reason, which wasn't too terribly long ago.

 

Bottom line is that sometimes we exhibit behaviors that aren't always good for ourselves or for sustaining a healthy relationship, like being insecure or selfish. Sometimes a breakup can mean a wake up call to signify action we need to take in our own lives.

 

Long story short is that my boyfriend and I have been together for over four years now, and are very happy together.

[HopeDiesLast]

Badbrit- brilliant idea!

I've got about 3 or 4 stories in regards to my friends- so i'll post one at a time.

My best friend and her bf dated from 17 to 21 yrs old. When she was a junior in college he cheated on her- and didnt tell her he had a new gf. When she called cus she found out, he was cold to her and mean. This went on for months till my friend came to the realization she had to let him go.

She went home from college that summer and he called her and they started to hang out again. She was so angry about how he made her feel durring that time, that she couldnt help but resent him. So when it came time to go back to school for her senior yr of college, she said she'd rather be single.

That summer after graduation, they got back together. She was able to finally get past her feelings of anger (although she still leaves a bar when THAT GIRL shows up) and they made it work. Last May, he proposed and they've been engaged and livign together since.

Their wedding is next fall.

Sometimes i think people need to leave and make themselves happy for a time- maybe to realize what they had, realize it would have never worked with that person, whatever it might be. In this case, he needed to know there was nothing else out their for him- that his happily ever after was right there in front of him!

[badbrit]

Exactly how I hoped this thread would go, great stories. Come on people, I am sure there are more, keep them coming, make this the mega great positive vibe thread

[HopeDiesLast]

Ok...story number 2 from another of my friends- my coworker and her bf met while she was in college and got engaged. they had a big wedding planned where they lived- invitations printed and ready to be mailed out. and all of a sudden her fiance freaked out on her. He said he wasnt ready, that maybe there were other women out there that he should date- i dont know how she handled hearing that one!

Well at first she called and cried and demanded answers. He answered her calls, but didnt have anything to say to her. After about a month of that she stopped calling. She went about her life and if he called her, she would be short with him and hang up quickly.

4 months in she was about to graduate college and move away. He finally called and said he was ready and that he didnt want a big wedding- he wanted 25 of their friends and family in puerto rico.

and now they've just had their second baby

[gennamoon]

I had a friend who's boyfriend had to move to Georgia for work...she was devastated because she didn't want to have a long distance relationship so they mutually broke it off. It took her awhile to get over it, but she did and everything started to get better for her. A year later, he called her out of the blue telling her he missed her and wanted to be with her forever...she moved to Georgia and they married...ah, wish that stuff happened for everybody...

[Melrapuo]

Anyone have a happy story where the girl left and came back to the guy? Sorry, I'm just noticing a trend here.

[Faded]

Anyone have a happy story where the girl left and came back to the guy? Sorry, I'm just noticing a trend here.

 

With me.

 

Life's a funny way of throwing things at you unexpectedly. You really do never know what will happen along certain roads.

 

Long story short, She left me - She was scared. Things were moving quick.

 

We both seemingly moved on, I went strict NC and told myself I wouldn't bother messaging her. Out of nowhere about 2months later we started talking again. We instantly clicked like we always have and well, The truth came out. She was telling me how much she loved me and regretted how things turned out. We're talking, Working things out and the rest is a fairy-tale yet to be written.

[0hpenelope]

Good seeing you, Sir badbrit!

 

Yeah, we need a load of sunshine on this forum. Let's please keep the stories coming.

[mousse]

Cool thread !

 

My parents broke up twice for one year during their relationship, mostly because they weren't ready for a serious relationship at the time. They got back together the two times and now they've been together for 33 years, they have 5 children together and are happy. So yeah, second chances do work out, I think it just depends on the reason behind the break up. If you were completely incompatible with the person then I think that a second chance wouldn't work out. But if you broke up because of other reasons such as fear, lack of maturity, timing then I think a second chance can definitely work out.

[sveltskye]

My parents also broke up once when they were young and are now going on 30 years of marriage.

[Da_1_n_OnlyN3na]

my cousin has been dating this guy for almost 4 years and they have split up alot of times because they would argue alot and they couldnt do it anymore. but they always end up toguether, the last time they broke up it was for a little more than a month he dumped her and she begged him to come back to her he refused and so she started talking to one of her ex bfs from high school and ended up going out with him again. out of nowhere her x started contacting her and she broke up with the guy she was with and went back out with her x. now they are happy and he gave her a promise ring.

[kars111]

for a positive story to be positive has to last to the death at least:-)

 

Otherwise, I have few of mine. I broke up with my college girl 3 times, she came back every time and finally, I said NO.

 

Then, ex wife and I got into break-ups few times (nasty ones you cannot imagine), we got back together.

 

if there is really a passion and love even no compatibility, people try to get back together...the problem it may fail again...

 

so what I learned from all that not every second or third chances are good at all. Sometimes, it is better to move on and find the real compatible person!

 

sean