mr314man Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 and I am worried. we are in couples counselling. doing ok so far. we are early 40's professionals, second marriage for both. i have two little girls from my first marriage. so. she is from a divorced family, middle child, older sister was physically abusive to her, now lives an alternative lifestyle. my wife is bulemic, recovering. has multiple plastic surgeries. is obsessed about how others view her. is clingy. diets constantly. does weird mindgame **** on my girls sometimes. she manipulates people. that's the negatives. we get along most of the time and i have been supportive of her to the point of bending over backwards. i love her. we have great times and she adds to my life. most of the time i am positive about her and us. when we have blowouts she can get violent. i would suggest she get into an inpatient thing so she can work out her demons. to tell her that would be perceived as a criticism. i think i made a mistake marrying her. i don't know why i am writing this... if i did this allover again, i'd be more aware of her bulemia issues and her narcissism. she is, i'm afraid, quite crazy.
EnigmasMuse Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 I think "crazy" might be a strong word, even though you may feel she is at times. Even she may feel that way. I think its obvious she has some issues as do most all people. Its good you all are in couples counseling, perhaps you both might benefit from individual counseling as well. Even if she wont go, you could, and maybe they could help you learn more effective ways of dealing with things. Just a thought.
Author mr314man Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 Yes, 'crazy' is my unofficial diagnosis, and subjective. Perhaps strong, too. I am going alone to see our counselor tonight. Thanks for your thoughtful feedback.
NewSunrise Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 Has she seen a medical doctor? I'm thinking bipolar depression?
lonelyandfrustrated Posted August 20, 2008 Posted August 20, 2008 I'll second the medical advice and see if medication may help her. And as a woman who some people might consider 'crazy' because of some of my antics when riled (which I regret. Does she experience regret?), I'll say that sometimes, a woman is just hard to get along with.
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