Quest for the anti-social..

[DdDdDdD]

Everytime I date, it's the same pattern (with the ones that work out..)

 

First few weeks/months we endlessly talk about what we did this week, next week, who we did it with, where we went, but all the while feeling like it's just us saying to each other "I have a life, I'm socially functional, I have friends, I'm desirable, etc"

 

But then comes that point where it's clearly obvious we both just want to sit at home and do nothing, be lazy, rent a movie, get some food, have passionate hot sex, and do lots of things we both find amusing yet wouldn't necessarily say "want to do ___ this week?"

 

As Chris Rock said.. all day long you bone, then every once in a while someone says "wanna go eat?" lol.

 

Now I'm not saying this is what I want all the time. I just think it's so pointless to pretend like I'm so active, so outgoing, yet I know it's a 'game' and you gotta be like that at the beginning. Plus, she might really prefer an active social life. But then I ask myself, but I don't, so why not just be antisocial from the beginning and weed out the one's who don't feel the same?

 

Do you think it's still necessary to go through that beginning phase? For some reason I feel like, I, myself, need to go through it, because it lets them know I could be active and social, and that I choose to not be. But that I'm still somewhat normal, and have the potential to be social if need be.

 

But it's TIRING. Now I just want to go straight to the being lazy at home phase. Or as Adam Corolla calls it the "fart stage".

[CommitmentPhobe]

I'm not anti-social although I do go through phases of being really outgoing and doing a lot of things, and other times im saving money and staying in and concentrating on hobbies.

 

Why don't you just be yourself? You say it's a game, but that doesn't mean you have to be something you're not. If you're not that outgoing then that's just you... I don't see anything wrong with it. Just find someone that's a bit homely.

[betterthandead]

Now if you spend most of your worthless life looking at tv, movies, eating. You're gonna be dating one of those incredibly boring girls. Don't blame yourself, that's who you are and that's who she is.

[LionLover]

Sometimes you'll go out, other times you won't. Sometimes you'll go together, other times seperate.

 

Balance.

[xpaperxcutx]

Sometimes you'll go out, other times you won't. Sometimes you'll go together, other times seperate.

 

Balance.

 

Exactly.

 

If you just prefer to remain anti- social forever, you'll alienate people who wants to get to know you.