Whitefox123 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 [sIZE=2]My ex ended our almost 3 year relationship about 2 months ago because apparently I was too insecure and jealous. Basically, I had issues with him talking to other women because it made me feel like I wasn’t good enough for him. I knew in my heart he’d never ever cheat on me, but I always felt like these girls were prettier or that he enjoyed talking to them more than me because we had been together for so long. 2 weeks after our break up, we started hanging out again and basically acted like a couple. We discussed the option of becoming a couple again and decided to see where things would go. After about 3 weeks of that, he started a new job where his hours became opposite of mine and he told me that due to that he didn’t think it was going to work out. Then last week he tells me that he didn’t want it to work out because of how I apparently didn’t trust him. It honestly was not that I didn’t trust him, I KNEW he’d never do anything, but I was just insecure of myself and wanted that reassurance that I was still beautiful to him, but instead I ended up pushing him away. We were on the phone one night last week and at the end of the night, he said “I love you” and I asked if he actually meant that romantically or if it was just a habit and he told me yes he meant it. Well we talked a few times since then but haven’t seen each other in 2 weeks. I am going crazy! I want to see him soooo bad, but part of me isn’t sure if he wants to see me. At the last minute there is always a change of plans (on his part), and it really stinks. We talked about moving on and he implied that it was not going very well for him at this point in time. He asked me how long it was going to take me to move on from him!! What really gets me though is that I am always being told by him that apparently I don’t miss him (romantically or otherwise) because now I spend all of my free time with my friends. I have also been told that I am just using my friends to get over him---which I’m not trying to do! I don’t understand why he cares so much about what I am doing or who I am with, if he says he is happier without me and doesn’t want to be with me. He even went as far as telling me that he feels like we’re drifting apart as friends because we haven’t seen or talked to each other due to our schedules. Am I reading too much into this or is possible that maybe he is just trying to convince himself to get over me by trying to upset me? Why is he still telling me he loves me and saying that he feels like we’re drifting apart? Why does that matter if he’s so much happier without me? School is starting soon….we go on the same days and have a few of the same classes (we have the same major--which is sort of how we met) and I am so anxious. Does it seem like there is any hope for us getting back together once school starts? Especially since we came so close just a few short weeks ago? For the record---since our break up I have learned to love myself a little more and have tried to gain a bit more independence in general. I actually apologized for my actions of jealously when we were still together and that was actually how our whole break up started! The plan totally backfired on me! I just don’t know what to do, if I should just say forget it and move on with my life….or if I should keep pursuing him. I do still love him with all of my heart….but at the same time, I am so frustrated! Any advice on this matter would be appreciated! [/sIZE]
saams Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 i dont know if this is any useful advice but what i would do..i'd tell him he is completly right and it just couldnt work out.. and then start dating other people and kind of ignore him abit. dont contact him or anything and just show him your enjoying life without him. if you wanna get back together with him i really think you need to let him know you wont be there in the future for him if he doesnt want it now.
Author Whitefox123 Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 Well, I really have been trying to go out and have fun with my friends. For some reason, this really upsets him, but it kind of gives me hope that he still wants me! i was talking with a friend last night and we were discussing how many days til school starts up again. Well the ex and I will see each other @ school-there is no way around that...so I was saying I should just chill out for the next 11 days or so and see what he does when he does see me on the first day of school! It's just so tempting to drive to his house though.....
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