WiseOne1 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Im Sick of my ex, when she talks about her current bf, I dont even feel hurt anymore, all i get is angry. I think her time is up, no longer do I love her "Romantically" no longer do I want her back, I just want her out of my life. Last time I told her that she should move on with her ex and kick me out of her life, she cried for about 3 hours. She wants to go back to be bestfriends like we were before we hooked up. Its not that I dont want to be her friend, is that she treated me so bad, that I dont even think of her as being friend meterial anymore. She doesnt have to love me anymore, and I dont love her anymore. Everyone has a breaking point. All we have between me and her are Sexual Feelings, that also we still have, and there stronger than ever. I guess the act of doing it behind her current BFs back turns her on more because its kinky to her. The Romantic feelings are gone!! The Friendship love is gone!!! Guys I need your advice, My BirthDay is next month, and she wants to rent a Hotel room, for , should I kick her out of my life then, or kick her out of my life now.
Melrapuo Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Im Sick of my ex, when she talks about her current bf, I dont even feel hurt anymore, all i get is angry. I think her time is up, no longer do I love her "Romantically" no longer do I want her back, I just want her out of my life. Last time I told her that she should move on with her ex and kick me out of her life, she cried for about 3 hours. She wants to go back to be bestfriends like we were before we hooked up. Its not that I dont want to be her friend, is that she treated me so bad, that I dont even think of her as being friend meterial anymore. She doesnt have to love me anymore, and I dont love her anymore. Everyone has a breaking point. All we have between me and her are Sexual Feelings, that also we still have, and there stronger than ever. I guess the act of doing it behind her current BFs back turns her on more because its kinky to her. The Romantic feelings are gone!! The Friendship love is gone!!! Guys I need your advice, My BirthDay is next month, and she wants to rent a Hotel room, for , should I kick her out of my life then, or kick her out of my life now. Eesh. I'm sure it sounds intriguing (and probably great in your mind), but I'd stay away from that. Thank kind of interaction with someone you are "over" will only complicate things even more.
Trimmer Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 That all depends. I'm going to assume that you don't see it as twisted or wrong to be doing your "ex" behind her current boyfriend's back, so although it would certainly be a part of my own consideration, we'll not use that in your equation... It sound like all you are getting out of this is sex. Yes? So the simple question becomes: is the sex you are getting (in the "plus" column) worth the drama it costs you (in the minus column,) which incidentally also includes "not moving on with your life." In other words, is this really a worthwhile way for you to spend your energy, for what you are getting out of it? A yes or no answer to this question solves the whole riddle.
sultry33 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 you can get sex anywhere.. is this good for you mentally and sexually? dont you think you are worth more and really you are fwb she is having her cake an eating it.. sure its good for you but you are not going to move on or be with anyone else all the time you allow this.. if she was single id change my view but she is not.. also if its not safe sex then really you need to be careful
badbrit Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I have some advice for you, stop lying to yourself. You keep going on about having no feelings for her, not caring, wanting her out of your life blah blah but she is sending you naked pictures, she is crying, you used a few random tactics that you got in the free section of some book which apparently worked and she wanted you back which was fantastic, then she didnt want you, or you didnt want her I forget which then she does this, that the other, then she wants sex, another ex back, is not sleeping with her current bf and so it goes on and on and on To be honest, I know you are young but you are also acting your inexperienced age. This is emotional ping pong and perhaps you can give me a reason why anyone should bother taking some time to reply to you because it goes in one ear and out the other and the next day it is something different. If you really did not care you would not need advice, you would go and bang the bitch then go home smiling without any worries in your mind. Why do you not try growing up a little and acknowledging that you love all of this, the highs, the lows, the adrenaline of it all, the drama and are thriving on it. Until you acknowledge that and deal with the issues that make you so attached and why you are addicted to this drama, you are going to be living one hell of a rollercoaster life. You will get to 35 and wonder why life is not nice and settled and will then face yourself, but by then you will have wasted 17 years of your life. I am not in the slightest bit interested in you disagreeing with this, I have been you and wish someone kicked my stupid little ass 17 years ago to save me the rubbish I have done and lived up to now.
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 I have some advice for you, stop lying to yourself. You keep going on about having no feelings for her, not caring, wanting her out of your life blah blah but she is sending you naked pictures, she is crying, you used a few random tactics that you got in the free section of some book which apparently worked and she wanted you back which was fantastic, then she didnt want you, or you didnt want her I forget which then she does this, that the other, then she wants sex, another ex back, is not sleeping with her current bf and so it goes on and on and on To be honest, I know you are young but you are also acting your inexperienced age. This is emotional ping pong and perhaps you can give me a reason why anyone should bother taking some time to reply to you because it goes in one ear and out the other and the next day it is something different. If you really did not care you would not need advice, you would go and bang the bitch then go home smiling without any worries in your mind. Why do you not try growing up a little and acknowledging that you love all of this, the highs, the lows, the adrenaline of it all, the drama and are thriving on it. Until you acknowledge that and deal with the issues that make you so attached and why you are addicted to this drama, you are going to be living one hell of a rollercoaster life. You will get to 35 and wonder why life is not nice and settled and will then face yourself, but by then you will have wasted 17 years of your life. I am not in the slightest bit interested in you disagreeing with this, I have been you and wish someone kicked my stupid little ass 17 years ago to save me the rubbish I have done and lived up to now. Lol, wow, News Flash! The future is here, the diffrence between me and other people is I never lose. On This Day! And On This Day, I see clearly. But Thanks everyone for replying, I have to make the right decision and the best decision, this has went on for to long, for 4 months now. I dont know why im allowing my ex to treat me like that, I never allowed my other ex gfs to. And I dont know why im allowing her to get to me, or change my mind, this is a diffrent scenario, most of the times your brain is telling you run, but my brain is telling me to stay and my heart is telling me to run. I really would love to be friends with her again, but she disrespected me in so many ways its not even funny, it makes me feel like im less than a person, and if she was ever a real friend she would never have treated me like she did. Thanks for all of you guys help.
CaliGuy Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Lol, wow, News Flash! The future is here, the diffrence between me and other people is I never lose. On This Day! And On This Day, I see clearly. But Thanks everyone for replying, I have to make the right decision and the best decision, this has went on for to long, for 4 months now. I dont know why im allowing my ex to treat me like that, I never allowed my other ex gfs to. And I dont know why im allowing her to get to me, or change my mind, this is a diffrent scenario, most of the times your brain is telling you run, but my brain is telling me to stay and my heart is telling me to run. I really would love to be friends with her again, but she disrespected me in so many ways its not even funny, it makes me feel like im less than a person, and if she was ever a real friend she would never have treated me like she did. Thanks for all of you guys help. You are playing a push/pull game with each other. She comes to you, you pull away. You come to her, she pulls away from you. She wants the sex and friendship, but her new guy meets the other needs. You should stop reading those crappy "get your love back" e-books and read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". That book will teach you how to handle things in a mature, manly way. She won't go away because you keep feeding her sex. And on top of that, she is cheating on her current boyfriend. What makes you think she wouldn't do that to you as well? She has no integrity whatsoever. Nor do you by fostering her behavior. If you can do better, if you always win, if you always come out on top, DO IT. Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because in the end, WE don't matter, you do in this situation. Do what you have to do, but stop the charade with her.
Author WiseOne1 Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 You are playing a push/pull game with each other. She comes to you, you pull away. You come to her, she pulls away from you. She wants the sex and friendship, but her new guy meets the other needs. You should stop reading those crappy "get your love back" e-books and read "No More Mr. Nice Guy". That book will teach you how to handle things in a mature, manly way. She won't go away because you keep feeding her sex. And on top of that, she is cheating on her current boyfriend. What makes you think she wouldn't do that to you as well? She has no integrity whatsoever. Nor do you by fostering her behavior. If you can do better, if you always win, if you always come out on top, DO IT. Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because in the end, WE don't matter, you do in this situation. Do what you have to do, but stop the charade with her. Lol, I havent read anybooks in a long time, I could care less about getting my ex back, I asked a simple question and I got a whole diffrent story. Im best upcoming boxer in the world, best wrestler world, heck the best Basketball player in the south, my career is planned out, and so is my life. Im guaranteed to suceed no matter what, no matter if it be financial, romantically, educationally. I Just wanna say that "Da Champ Is Here". Lol but guys thanks, I dont know what I would do without LS
CaliGuy Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Lol, I havent read anybooks in a long time, I could care less about getting my ex back, I asked a simple question and I got a whole diffrent story. Im best upcoming boxer in the world, best wrestler world, heck the best Basketball player in the south, my career is planned out, and so is my life. Im guaranteed to suceed no matter what, no matter if it be financial, romantically, educationally. I Just wanna say that "Da Champ Is Here". Lol but guys thanks, I dont know what I would do without LS Since you have all the answers, why bother asking questions?
vivrantflo Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Im Sick of my ex, when she talks about her current bf, I dont even feel hurt anymore, all i get is angry. Why are you still talking to her? Why are you giving her the platform to talk to you about another man? I really would love to be friends with her again, I think her time is up, no longer do I love her "Romantically" no longer do I want her back, I just want her out of my life. Which is it man? You're all over the place. You say you want her out of your life, then you ask this... Guys I need your advice, My BirthDay is next month, and she wants to rent a Hotel room, for , should I kick her out of my life then, or kick her out of my life now. Have some self-respect dude, and stop banging another man's woman.. no matter how trampy she is. You can do better. And On This Day, I see clearly. I Just wanna say that "Da Champ Is Here". You watch a lot of WWE wrestling don't you? Since you have all the answers, why bother asking questions? This is a good question. Get out of this situation. Stop cheating. I say stop cheating, because you are now placing yourself in a cheating situation. Just because your ex is easier than a game of frogger, doesn't mean you have to take advantage of that. Respect your mind and body, and leave this chick alone. Find a woman that's all about you and is with you alone... instead of resorting to kissing your ex while simultaneously finding out what this other dude's genitalia tastes like. You're MUCH better than that.
tommiw Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Respect your mind and body, and leave this chick alone. Find a woman that's all about you and is with you alone... instead of resorting to kissing your ex while simultaneously finding out what this other dude's genitalia tastes like. You're MUCH better than that. Hahaha, exactly!
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