eugene3 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 My ex and i have been broken up for almost 6 months. I chased her for the first 3 months and all it did was make things worse. Her parents are remarried and i get along well with her dad and step mom but her real mom does not want me with her. Her moms reason is she does not know me. I was with my ex for 2 years and engaged. Things really got bad between us last november when we got engaged. He mom was very updet and made everyone aware she was not happy. I asked her dad to marry his daughter and he said yes. the mother was mad saying i should have asked her and held that against me. Anyway things got even more worse and in march she broke it off saying its not going to wrok and she is unhappy. The mother now is happy we are not togther. Over the 6 month period i would e-mal her and sometimes she would respond back with hurtful words like she is blaming me for what happened. I admit i did not treat her great the last few months but he rmom was puting me through hell. The mother and started to get the dad against me. Anyway it was a nasty breakup and the family was involved. He dad got so fed up he told me to leave her alone and stop chasing her. He after 3 months had to send the ring and my things back to me because she would not. When i recieved my things i noticed there was alot of things i was missing so for the mean time i left it go. The last few weeks i have asked her to meet or mail the rest of my thinsg back. This then became a hugh subject because it almost seemed she did not want to let go of my things. So last week i e-mailed her saying that if she is 100% sure we can not salvage anything even friendship from this or work things out then she needs to mail my things back. She then replied that she has alot to say and not the time to say it. I then said ok we will talk about it in a few days. So today she agreed for us to talk on the phone, the first time in 3 months. I am not sure what to say i mean i love her and want to work things out with her but i know what she will say and thats goning to be that what will her friends and family think meaning they are not going to like the idea of us talking is what she will say. I got along well with her brother and dad and step mom. the mother does nto like me or us togther, the mother is controling of her and says she does not want her to make the same mistakes she did. I never did anything to the mother or even had a bad conversation. The number 1 reason is she does not know me and said i never tried to get to know her so she hates me. I love her daughter and her family i just was closer to her dad and step mom since we spent so much time there. I just feek it a long road to win the family over and i am worried things will not be the same with them. I think my ex needs to talk to her mom and dad and say hey this is what i want so stay out of it. Her mom i think was to involved in our relationship, the father is like hey its your life so live it. What do i say to her tonight about this? How can i let her know that we should try to work things out? I am not even sure what she wants to talk about, maybe that it needs to be over but if that was the case she would not even put the time to talk to me if she was not interested in anyway...right?
jerbear Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I think it is time to take a break from chasing her and getting her family involved. I would stay away from being friends for now, just be acquaintances versus "friends". Her family does not want her to marry you, so just let it be. When you do talk to her, keep the door open and say you would consider working on the relationship; but it takes two people to make a relationship work. If she does not want a relationship, that includes friendship, let her be.
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