henrickson Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I JUST turned seventeen. I have a huge crush on a fourteen year old girl. I've liked her since she was twelve and I was 15. She is almost fifteen now. Ok, obviously you can't get married at 17 and 15, and were both christians so even if it did work out between us we WOULDN'T have sex so NO it ISN'T illegal. She is my best friends little sister. I used to think she had a crush on me then I realized that I liked her. Ok, I have never had a crush on a girl or dated anyone before, she hasn't dated either. I'm not weird around girls or shy, its just that I've only ever liked her. for like 2 years now. I've told my best friend that I like her, he wasn't weirded out. We talk about it alot. But, should I TELL her?!?!?!?!?! I wish with all my heart that I never would have had a crush on her. But I do, and I don't want to let her go. I LOVE HER like a friend and I have a crush on her. should I tell her? I've never done anything like that before? how should I do it? Why shouldn't I do it? Is there an easy way to do it? Any advice? talk 2 me PLEASE! I need help, i've been going crazy about this girl for 2 YEARS now! In all honesty even if she did like me we wouldn't "date," we're both to young. We could just get to know each other better as friends and hopefully someday something more.
CGrace44 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 It's good to have a crush on someone and want to get to know them better, but with both of your experience levels in mind I would say TAKE IT SLOW. Things like: I've told my best friend that I like her, he wasn't weirded out. and I wish with all my heart that I never would have had a crush on her. kind of show uncertainty? immaturity? You shouldn't care what other people think (even her sibling) or be ashamed of your feelings. If at this point you just want to get to know each other better as friends (not dating, not a relationship yet) then do just that: get to know her better. Invite her to activities with you and your friends and see if you can get a chance to chat more privately with just her OR be daring: ask her to get some food with you without other people around. Honestly, right now I do NOT think you should tell her your feelings. I think it will make the situation awkward and make it more difficult for the two of you to get to know each other better. If the situation was different and you were looking to date this girl and to love her as a girlfriend and not as a friend (not sometime in the future, but right now) then I would say go for it. But you're right, you may be too young for all that so just get to know her first...then decide if you really do love her.
Author henrickson Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 the problem is that I already act weird around her and her around me. I think that she acts awkward around me because I do around her. I'm not sure you no? Maybe she really does like me and she is just acting the same way because that's just what people do. I know that something has to happen. I do love her, I can't escape it. I'm not sure if I should try to dislike her, or if I shouldn't love her like I do. I cant go on like this! This is all makeing me HATE my life. I just... AHHH!H!!!!!!!!!! i don't know what to do!!! but I know that I have to do something!!! maybe I should run away so that I'll never have to see her again and maybe I'll forget about her. Maybe I should just get it out that I have the worlds biggest crush on her. Maybe I should keep everything bottled up inside of me untill I DIE!!! I'm not sure if any of you could possibly understand were i'm coming from. Maybe deep down I just want 2 b excepted. I'm not lusting after her, I just love her, and I guess I wish that she felt the same way about me so that we could both wait untill we're older to date, get married or what ever. Tell me if I'm wrong, but maybe telling her is what I need to do so that I can take the next step in moving on. I don't want to move on my way away from her, I just KNOW someting has to happen, something has to be said or understood. AHHHHH!!!! Did I just answer my own questioin? I don't know. I don't know who I am
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