Lucky555 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Guys that are normal, genuine, sincere, are themselves, want a future, goal orientated, good career. WHERE can i find them?! I think i have to meet people through family sometimes but my family just seems to generate people that i don't like! I have yet to meet my brothers available good guy friends...he has none like this. The dating world is hard to be in.
monkey00 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I don't think you're asking for a lot, but the majority of guys like those don't hangout at clubs or bars too often. Company events/social events would be more likely. But what would be even more likely is to meet them through friends/family/at work.
Krytie TV Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 These guys largely hang out at all the same places that the losers do. They are probably the guys you overlook because they don't look "dangerous" enough. I think the question is less about being around these types of guys and more about your radar and the types of guys you are drawn to.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 At home, with their wives. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: Or online trolling LS complaining why they can't get any girls.
coffeemaker Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 bookstores, cafes (independent, starbucks, etc), LS!, um, and at the same clubs/bars that the "bad boys" frequent. We're out there, happy being single and happy doing our own thing ;-)
D-Lish Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 At home, with their wives. haha- I was just going to say that.... lol.
carhill Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Like interests. I've met a number of female forum members from Flyertalk, an airline forum I participate in, at locales around the world. Flying on airplanes is a great way to meet people and surprisingly I've met people from my local area at all kinds of far flung places. Business/professional people tend to travel a fair amount. I travel for fun but have met and enjoyed the company of plenty in my years of wandering. Only time I go to bars/clubs is when I'm with my wife. There's really nothing interesting about those types of social arenas for me. Only other significant place I met women when I was single was at the zoo, where I worked as a volunteer docent. Always enjoyed the after-hours parties
Yamaha Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Probably one of your good guy buddies would fill your requirements but you just don't feel that way about them....
Trialbyfire Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 You can meet them at house parties and dinners. Organically grow your social network and you'll meet them when you least expect it.
Mako482 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I'm one of those guys, you can find me working, at home working on school or spending time with my kids lol. As has been said guys like us you meet through friends, work, or family, I don't hang out in bars or clubs. Plus you have to catch us in between marriages;) I am at a severe disadvantage I think, I have a shaved head, tattoos, the bad boy look with the nice guy attitude. I think when women see me they expect something else, then when they get to know me and I'm not the bad boy they expected they take off! lol. I like to think I'm a nice guy who is a little rough around the edges, yet despite the millions of women supposedly looking for me I can't seem to find one! Don't know the problem is, I think I'm cool man!
Suiyobi Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I am at a severe disadvantage I think, I have a shaved head, tattoos, the bad boy look with the nice guy attitude. I think when women see me they expect something else, then when they get to know me and I'm not the bad boy they expected they take off! lol. Ironic, isn't it? I think I'm cool man! Heh, that's the thing man. Don't be nice; be cool.
Author Lucky555 Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 my approach to dating right now is to be easy going. I'm not going to expect anything and just let it happen, but know when it is time to cut bait if its not the relationship i desire..as in being mistreated or something along those lines. So as for guys I don't have any close male friends.......All the relationships i try to establish with male friends end up with them wanting to SLEEP with me. I have yet to encounter a male friend that does not have those intentions. I think establishing and expanding my own social network is probably the best idea right now. This is because i have no other options. I have recently met some cute single guys randomly at work but i don't know how to get from conversation to have them ask me out or something. Will a guy, if hes interested, ask me out upon a random meeting?
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I am at a severe disadvantage I think, I have a shaved head, tattoos, the bad boy look with the nice guy attitude. I think when women see me they expect something else, then when they get to know me and I'm not the bad boy they expected they take off! lol. I like to think I'm a nice guy who is a little rough around the edges, yet despite the millions of women supposedly looking for me I can't seem to find one! Don't know the problem is, I think I'm cool man! It's nice to know someone else suffers from that problem! I'm another inked up cue ball; between the look and the bike, it's a Catch-22. The 'good' girls won't come near me because they're afraid; I look like something from a 20/20 exposé on 'biker gangs'. On the other hand, the 'bad' girls jump ship the instant they realize I'm not the hardcore gangsta thug they envisioned. Sorry for hijacking. We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread, already in progress.
The Collector Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I have recently met some cute single guys randomly at work but i don't know how to get from conversation to have them ask me out or something. Will a guy, if hes interested, ask me out upon a random meeting? Ask some innocent-ish question that includes whether or not they have a girlfriend - 'who you and your girlfriend?' and if they say they don't have a girlfriend just say 'oh really?' or just look quietly pleased and they should get the idea. You could also mention that theres some movie you want to see, but none of your friends are interested...
Yamaha Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 So as for guys I don't have any close male friends.......All the relationships i try to establish with male friends end up with them wanting to SLEEP with me. I have yet to encounter a male friend that does not have those intentions. Most guys take offense if a women only wants to be a friend. They feel that she has rejected them. If you want a male friend you can't date them and then try to turn them into a friend. You must establish boundries at the beginning and even thern there is no guarantee (as most guys who would want to spend time with you are probably attracted and wanting more). It is a big difference between men and women. Women want friends and guys are conditioned to feel friends is settling.
Author Lucky555 Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 Well I have tried to be just friends with guys but they always want more. Its a huge turn off because I didn't see potential in them in the first place and thats why i just wanted friends. I also tried to become friends with a guy and maybe meet more of his friends to see if i do find anyone interesting to date possibly. NOPE NEVER HAPPENS because they end up trying to be more than friends with me. I am getting impatient and I don't know why, i suppose its because I want someone to share my life with and to dream with, as do other people who desire relationships. I don't want to do online dating. I want to meet someone real but its like its impossible. There are guys at my work that have interest in me but i am completely avoiding them because I don't like their type...party, smoke, ect. I want to meet someone that is into their goals, career, going to school, passionate about what they want out of life, and keep healthy. I would like for a change have a date that involves walking on the beach, going hiking, and doing things together! Most guys that i have encountered are into the regular movie and dinner. Even seeing a comedian would be awesome. Thanks for the tips everyone..I like how you all mostly said that you are among those people at clubs and you can be found almost anywhere. There is more hope for me now that i know this hahaha. I just have to learn to select the good ones.... So now my new question is, What tips can you all give me in finding a good guy ? What are some traits that i could look for upon meeting him? Obviously chemistry, but any ideas?
sumdude Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Well I have tried to be just friends with guys but they always want more. Its a huge turn off because I didn't see potential in them in the first place and thats why i just wanted friends. I also tried to become friends with a guy and maybe meet more of his friends to see if i do find anyone interesting to date possibly. NOPE NEVER HAPPENS because they end up trying to be more than friends with me. I am getting impatient and I don't know why, i suppose its because I want someone to share my life with and to dream with, as do other people who desire relationships. I don't want to do online dating. I want to meet someone real but its like its impossible. There are guys at my work that have interest in me but i am completely avoiding them because I don't like their type...party, smoke, ect. I want to meet someone that is into their goals, career, going to school, passionate about what they want out of life, and keep healthy. I would like for a change have a date that involves walking on the beach, going hiking, and doing things together! Most guys that i have encountered are into the regular movie and dinner. Even seeing a comedian would be awesome. Thanks for the tips everyone..I like how you all mostly said that you are among those people at clubs and you can be found almost anywhere. There is more hope for me now that i know this hahaha. I just have to learn to select the good ones.... So now my new question is, What tips can you all give me in finding a good guy ? What are some traits that i could look for upon meeting him? Obviously chemistry, but any ideas? Well it might help if I knew your age.. makes it easier to get an idea.. seems like you might be around college age?
Sks Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Female friends are a byproduct of failed relationships, nothing more.
WarKat Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 IMO opinion, men and women can be friends, after they have mutually agreed that is what is best for both of them (i.e. they tried to make it more but failed miserably). Men and women cannot be friends if one wants more than the other is able to give. If you are trying to be friends with guys in the hope that they will introduce you to other guys you can date....well, you are in for a very difficult journey. Humans by nature are posessive and if you are trying to be friends with a guy who is interested in more than friendship, I guarantee you that the only male friends of his you will meet are the ones that he feels is not a threat to his designs on you. Its interesting how you meet all the cool friends after you are in a committed relationship with said person. That being said, IMO, you will find the type of person that you are looking for in the places where they can pursue their interests. One poster mentioned working at the zoo. Is there a passion you have (other than dating) that you can pursue, volunteer work, animals, etc. The man you are looking for wants a relationship, but doesn't need one.
Mahatma Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 Depends how old you are. I would recommend a fitness type place. Not a meat-head gym, but a regular fitness place like 24 or something. A place with a higher membership cost will most likely positively correlate with what you are looking for.
ManWithQuestions Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 i think im too young for you kidding guys like that tend to just hang out with friends, go do some things now and then nothing to drastic me and my friends personally just hang out a lot somewhere or we will go work on a car, or just go cruise around in our cars go swimming somewhere watch a movie just hang out were usually pretty content with things
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