Author Jay34 Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 She just text messaged me and told me she was really missed me, told me she couldn't call me because she was with family and said that she was such a bitch, im not sure how to respond to this???
Ronni_W Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 , im not sure how to respond to this??? That she is NOT a bitch to be with family, and you missed her too, and are glad to hear from her, and sorry about the recent problems between the two of you, and looking forward to having a nice, long, relaxing chat to clear everything up -- ???
Author Jay34 Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 i couldn't get myself to text message her back, i figure she didn't want to talk, but it was such a confusing message, she knows she could have called me later but did not, either way i figure i will wait awhile to see if she call's, her birthday is coming up on the 25th and i'm not sure if i should send her the card and all the little gift's i bought for her, but i think i will. i just don't understand these games, she was never too busy before to call so i think it is probably because she is scared, idk what the heck to do anymore
Ronni_W Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 i couldn't get myself to text message her back, i figure she didn't want to talk, Jay, from everything you've posted it appears that you guys have some SERIOUS power and control issues going on. Not just one or the other, but both of you. It does not bode well for the future, individually or as a couple. Even if you do break-up, at some point you may want to consider taking a deeper look at your own triggers and methods around all of it. Otherwise you will just take your own 'stuff' into your next relationship. If she was the one posting, I would suggest to her the exact same thing -- google "power and control issues" and start eliminating any ineffective and non-productive attitudes and behaviours. If you are currently on a path of self-improvement, this page appears to have some useful info as a place to start: http://www.growingaware.com.au/POWER_CONTROL_IN_RELATIONSHIPS.HTM Sending good wishes that you'll both be able to resolve the issues, and enjoy a happy and supportive relationship.
Author Jay34 Posted August 18, 2008 Author Posted August 18, 2008 well i found out after 6 days of no contact, that the week before i saw her she had kissed another guy and she pulled away from him so she says and said it was wrong, she said i deserve better, well i know i should have broken it off right then and there but i said i forgave her, i said do u want it over now or do u want to at least talk about it, this was all online, she said she would call me, this is the last straw
nopainnogain Posted August 18, 2008 Posted August 18, 2008 well i found out after 6 days of no contact, that the week before i saw her she had kissed another guy and she pulled away from him so she says and said it was wrong, she said i deserve better, well i know i should have broken it off right then and there but i said i forgave her, i said do u want it over now or do u want to at least talk about it, this was all online, she said she would call me, this is the last straw Forget this chick
Author Jay34 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 she never called me back, so i called at 10 and then at 12. she never answered, obviously she wants nothing to do with me, i'm going to leave her a voicemail tonight ending it if she doesn't call me back. she thinks i am a sucker
Javelin Posted August 19, 2008 Posted August 19, 2008 she never called me back, so i called at 10 and then at 12. she never answered, obviously she wants nothing to do with me, i'm going to leave her a voicemail tonight ending it if she doesn't call me back. she thinks i am a sucker Don't bother with calling, emailing, or IMin' her anymore, just let her go.. Delete her number, e-mail address, and block her on whatever chat services you use. I know it'll be hard my friend, but there's nothing you can do at this point.
Author Jay34 Posted August 19, 2008 Author Posted August 19, 2008 do i ever contact her again, what we had when we had it was magical, but the fact that she kissed another guy ruins it, i mean one day i do want to be with her but for right now i realize that is not what she wants, she told me she doesn't want to be in any relationship and kissing that guy made her feel horrible. but she still is playing games with me, i have decided to let her go, i won't contact her for awhile and see where things end up, in a way i forgive her because i know i neglected her by not seeing her and treating her bad at times, but i didn't deserve this, i still love her though i really do, do i still send her the small birthday gift i bought her, it cost less then the 20 dollars. minus all the mushy stuff like the card obviously
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