hellokitty55 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 My bf of 4.5 years dumped me 2 weeks ago. He was acting distant and not really affectionate 3 weeks before we broke up. I knew he liked this younger girl at his job (we are only 21 yrs old btw & she just turned 17)... I kept asking and asking and he kept saying no no no shes too young no. He finally admitted to it. I asked him if he still loved me & he said yes, but its different now. He said he still wants to stay good friends since we've been together so long and we started out friends in high school. He said he always wants me in his life & cares about me. (I was his first everything..his only gf so he never had any other experiences) The reason why he lost interest was because we were together 24/7 for 4 years and I acted needy...He said it feels like him & this girl are dating already but he still hasnt asked her out yet even though she would def say yes. Because she's too young? Doesn't want the committment? Just having fun? Wants me in the picture?? I dont know. I actually told him to please ask her out so that could help me accept everything and he was surprised I said that and he said, "Im not gonna ask her out bc you want me to" We tried hanging out a few times as friends since we broke up. The first time I started to cry and that pushed him away. The second time I acted so over it and happy and he asked me what i have been up to/who i have been with. I also stopped texting him, which made him text me but ignored him i could tell he didnt like that i was actually happy without him for those few days which made me feel even better. i also left early and he was like why? where are you going? He still kept everything I gave him & all of my pictures are still hanging in his room and i told him to take them down and he said why, i dont want to. THe last time we hung out i started crying bc he kept texting the other girl (it was her bday)..I told him i dont want to talk for a while and he didnt want that but eventually said "ok i wont give up on you" Im confused..I know he still has feelings for me but he's also interested in this new girl because she's simply new! Yet he still hasnt asked her out yet and maybe never will..His mom said he just wants to see whats out there.. he will probably be back because we had something special. Im doing NC for a month (didnt really tell him) so he can think about things, feels what its like without me in his life etc. Is there any hope that he will come back if I change when I see him in a month? I plan on acting happy for him, happy with my own life, and just strong and confident since guys like independent happy women. I just want to get his attention back to me.
Yamaha Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 I think once someone has made a decision to look elsewhere they don't look back.
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