sumdude Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 So I've been hanging out with this woman for a few weeks. We're part of a group of friends. There's some chemistry there. We flirt, talk have a generally good time. Trying to figure out my interest level and hers. She has this habit of saying "I'll call you back" or "I'll call tomorrow." then not calling back....I just let it go then a few days pass and she calls me up. She initiates contact. We'll meet up somewhere, not dating just hanging out and go through this cycle again. Too bad, it could be a possibility but her flakiness is a turn off.... lol and the fact that in one conversation she mentioned that she's cheated on almost every boyfriend.. I guess we're just friends and that's fine. though at times I wonder if she's playing that whole hard to get.. testing game. uh uh not falling for it..
Mako482 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 Sounds familiar, also sounds like you are better off not messing with it. Just my opinion.
audrey_1 Posted August 12, 2008 Posted August 12, 2008 So I've been hanging out with this woman for a few weeks. We're part of a group of friends. There's some chemistry there. We flirt, talk have a generally good time. Trying to figure out my interest level and hers. She has this habit of saying "I'll call you back" or "I'll call tomorrow." then not calling back....I just let it go then a few days pass and she calls me up. She initiates contact. We'll meet up somewhere, not dating just hanging out and go through this cycle again. Too bad, it could be a possibility but her flakiness is a turn off.... lol and the fact that in one conversation she mentioned that she's cheated on almost every boyfriend.. I guess we're just friends and that's fine. though at times I wonder if she's playing that whole hard to get.. testing game. uh uh not falling for it.. Wow, you mean exhibiting behavior like guys do? Get out! Just kidding. This kind of thing sucks to be on the receiving end of no matter what. Sorry it's happening. Could be hard to get. Could be friends.
almost famous Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 You are letting her say "I'll call you" but why aren't you calling her? You could call her first and be the man and take the initiative. I don't think she's flaky, you just aren't being the man, you're being the woman.
Mako482 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 lol and the fact that in one conversation she mentioned that she's cheated on almost every boyfriend.. Flaky or not is not the question, this is!
Author sumdude Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 You are letting her say "I'll call you" but why aren't you calling her? You could call her first and be the man and take the initiative. I don't think she's flaky, you just aren't being the man, you're being the woman. ha ha ha LOL! It's not like I never call her. When someone says "I'll call you tomorrow." Then never calls... that's flaky in my book. Do what you say... I've already had a woman do the ultimate flake out on me once..(ran out on the marriage without warning) I won't tolerate flakiness anymore.
Author sumdude Posted August 13, 2008 Author Posted August 13, 2008 Flaky or not is not the question, this is! No doubt. I was surprised she admitted to it... in fact my reply to her was "And you admit it!?"
almost famous Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Just because she says that, doesn't mean you shouldn't call her anyway. She is waiting for you to take more initiative, she needs the Alpha type. It's also possible she's not interested, which is not flaky. I noticed the guys on here use the word flaky for women who aren't interested in them romantically. Uh, no, they aren't into you, get over it. ha ha ha LOL! It's not like I never call her. When someone says "I'll call you tomorrow." Then never calls... that's flaky in my book. Do what you say... I've already had a woman do the ultimate flake out on me once..(ran out on the marriage without warning) I won't tolerate flakiness anymore.
A.G.Doren Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 People should do what they say their going to do or not say it. I might mention it in a non-confrontational way. Some people don't think that you have to actually follow through on phone calls the same way you would on a date or meeting.
Virgo1982 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 Yeah, people should. I also think he should call her on it.
sid3 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 . I noticed the guys on here use the word flaky for women who aren't interested in them romantically. Uh, no, they aren't into you, get over it. I have to disagree with this. Showing signs of interest, acting interested, and all the other mixed messages are what I believe leads to our posting about flakiness. I'm sure most men would agree, it's far easier to deal with rejection than it is the hot/cold and flaky behaviors.
Mako482 Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 You are letting her say "I'll call you" but why aren't you calling her? You could call her first and be the man and take the initiative. I don't think she's flaky, you just aren't being the man, you're being the woman. Just because she says that, doesn't mean you shouldn't call her anyway. She is waiting for you to take more initiative, she needs the Alpha type. It's also possible she's not interested, which is not flaky. I noticed the guys on here use the word flaky for women who aren't interested in them romantically. Uh, no, they aren't into you, get over it. Reading your posts in this thread makes me think you're a pretty arrogant person. If you're such a pro why are you here? If it is to give advice you need to work on that my friend, no one is going to be receptive to that attitude. As for flaky if someone shows interest through words and actions but does not respond to you acting on them they are being flaky. If you aren't interested don't **** with me, period. I have better things to do.
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 13, 2008 Posted August 13, 2008 ha ha ha LOL! It's not like I never call her. When someone says "I'll call you tomorrow." Then never calls... that's flaky in my book. Do what you say... I've already had a woman do the ultimate flake out on me once..(ran out on the marriage without warning) I won't tolerate flakiness anymore. Except you are tolerating it!!
Author sumdude Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 Except you are tolerating it!! Nah... I'm just l;etting it go. I'm not all tweaked about it or hung up on her. There are far too many women in the world to get bent over this one. Just posted an experience I'm having. I'm fine just hanging out as freinds from time to time... she could end up a good wing girl.
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 14, 2008 Posted August 14, 2008 Nah... I'm just l;etting it go. I'm not all tweaked about it or hung up on her. There are far too many women in the world to get bent over this one. Just posted an experience I'm having. I'm fine just hanging out as freinds from time to time... she could end up a good wing girl. Ok I'm still confused... Isn't she going to be a flaky friend also What's your real agenda here? come on seriously, "wing girl"? You want to bone her, admit it
Author sumdude Posted August 14, 2008 Author Posted August 14, 2008 Ok I'm still confused... Isn't she going to be a flaky friend also Yep... so what i have a few flaky freinds. Justr a matter of expectaions. What's your real agenda here? come on seriously, "wing girl"? You want to bone her, admit it Sure I'll admit it.. I am a guy after all and she is attractive. But like I said, she's not the only woman around. Besides a good wing girl can be very useful. So what's your agenda?
almost famous Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I am just saying that just because she says "I'll call you" doesn't mean you, as a guy, can't call her. In fact, if you're interested, you should call her. This doesn't make me arrogant. It's just that if a guy is interested, he calls. End of story. Just give her a call. Saying "I'll call you" anymore is pretty much like saying "How are you?" to a coworker, you aren't really asking because of real concern. So just call her if you're interested. You haven't really stated anything about her which makes her a bad person or even flaky whatsoever. Reading your posts in this thread makes me think you're a pretty arrogant person. If you're such a pro why are you here? If it is to give advice you need to work on that my friend, no one is going to be receptive to that attitude. As for flaky if someone shows interest through words and actions but does not respond to you acting on them they are being flaky. If you aren't interested don't **** with me, period. I have better things to do.
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